Vanity: “I, the best of all”

We usually think that the fact of value yourself It involves taking all your personal skills and resources, and cutting out the negative aspects. By doing this, many believe that they can do everything or that they are the best at everything and that they have “good self-esteem.” It is this way now? No. That’s vanity.

A healthy self-esteem involves the recognition of both the positive aspects and the defective aspects, which in turn allows us to recognize internal balance. However, most people do not have a balanced self-esteem and therefore they often resort to multiple traps to compensate for the internal devaluation that characterizes them.

The poverty of the vain

Vanity is defined as ‘exacerbated love towards oneselfas well as excessive belief in one’s own abilities and the need to show them to others.’ This means that A vain person not only believes excessively in himself, but constantly seeks to be noticed or highlighted by others.because he has the compulsive desire to be recognized and valued.

The vain person does not have the inability to recognize and value others. He is so focused on himself that he constantly flaunts his genius qualities in order for others to notice and recognize them. Because of this, he is arrogant and conceited. He also has a superb attitude that makes him feel superior, whether from an intellectual or physical point of view.

On the other hand, the vain person always tries to talk about what he knows, but also about what he doesn’t and makes ostentation. vox populi of what you consider to be your personal values. He is an expert at ignoring or making people invisible. Therefore, he disqualifies and devalues ​​any opinion, only his will be the correct one in any case. Furthermore, the person next to them does not exist for them, except when they applaud him.

The vain man has so hypertrophied his I, who does not admit people into his world and boasts so much about himself that he does not allow the entry of others, with whom he barely relates in a superficial way. Tends to establish very asymmetrical relationships and can easily turn those around him into subjects who flatter his own attributes. (this is how he thinks the relationship can work).

As if that were not enough, a vain person will never accept that there is another who wants to be at his or her level and does not “recognize” his or her supposed superiority. Furthermore, if that person tries to argue with him – to make him see reason or for whatever reason -, he will get nowhere, because the vain person will only be interested in his own opinion, in “his expert version” of things, which He also considers it as “the truth.”

For all this, it is not easy to bond with vain people.

Vanity is nothing more than a defense against inner emptiness.

Let’s go back to the definition of what “vanity” is to understand the poverty of the inner world of the vain. The first meaning of the Dictionary of the Spanish Language indicates that it is the quality of vain. Then, “vain” is defined as ’empty, hollow or lacking in substance or solidity’.

Taking these two definitions into account, we can see that vanity is a defense against self-worth; that is to say, The person feels a personal emptiness and to defend themselves against it, they place themselves above others. Vanity then becomes a reaction to overvaluing oneself due to the absence of personal value.

But contrary to what he intends, the vain person produces rejection in the rest of the people. His petulant and arrogant attitude makes people not tolerate him and rather marginalize him. So, the intensity of the desire to be recognized can be equal to the rejection you receive.

How to recognize a vain person?

He believes that his point of view is the only truth and the only one that matters.It appears confident, powerful and valued.He is bombastic about his achievements.Publish on social networks after the image of a winner.He usually believes that he is right about everything and ignores others.He tries to show indifference, but he cares very much that others have a good image. He goes out of his way to create a perfect image. He dresses well or at least wears designer clothes, to make others take notice. He gets angry very easily when it comes to arguing.He expresses himself theatrically, with intonations, to capture the attention of his audience.Has an explanatory attitude. She is always lecturing on various topics and it seems that she talks on a platform as if others were ignorant.

Vanity has many faces, including false modesty.

The vain can be – to a greater or lesser extent – omnipotent, egomaniacal, pedant, and arrogant… This means that there are different types of vain people.

The vain braggart is the one who monopolizes attention in social gatherings, leading various topics. He talks and talks without giving room to others and, sometimes, he makes a fool of himself because he tries to provide technical construction knowledge to an engineer or explain the mechanisms of the unconscious to a psychologist, for example.

Generally, The vain man can do everything, knows everything, understands everything and there is no one better than him. Nor is there anyone else who is a bearer of “the truth” like him. Then, if pedantry and arrogance are added to vanity, egoism and omnipotence, the result could be delirious behavior, worthy of a Roman emperor who believes himself to be God.

The vain guy false modest is who He intentionally shows a profile of “humility” and manages to make the interlocutor the one who boasts and highlights the conditions that he “tries to hide” so that they become evident.

Instead, Humble people are those who do not brag or boast about their knowledge or skills. Many of them recognize that they have them, but that is not the reason they go through life reminding people of their virtues. They are precisely those people who surprise us with their abilities since it would never have occurred to us that they were in their repertoire.

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