To judge someone is to define yourself

The person who judges says more about himself than he intends to say about the other. Let’s see it in detail.

We are people, all different and unique. For this reason we have certain behavioral patterns, a specific personality and a very significant interior that shows who we are. However, this particularity allows us to judge others.

It is very easy to question others and for others to judge us. However, the truth is that the person who judges says more about himself than what he intends to say about the other. That is, if I judge someone for being a hypocrite, perhaps I should see in what aspects of my life I am a hypocrite. You may even have to learn to be more flexible and respect others as they are.

I respect how you are and I don’t judge you

It is difficult to escape the simplicity with which we can judge others. The variety of people we can meet is as great as the damage we can cause by talking about them without knowing them beforehand. Even when we know them and don’t listen to them.

The truth is that my tastes are not the same as yours, I surely do not act how you would act in my place and, most likely, Things don’t affect me the same way they do you.

That is why A healthy relationship is built on respect and tolerance, even if the relationship is strictly cordial. We share our lives with the people we like because of how they really are and we would like it to never change, for the world.

If anyone has ever told you that you are special, they weren’t wrong. You are because of your particular way of seeing the world and being in it.

To know all this is to know that Judging someone is equivalent to not understanding why that person is a certain way. We do not know what the other person has experienced, what has made them like this, or how much it may hurt them when we criticize them for no justified reason.

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I like how I am and I don’t want you to judge me

Judging is like throwing a coin in the air and seeing what comes up: it could be someone else’s point of view or it could be you. And if that’s you, you won’t like it when people talk about you lightly. In these cases we always say that to understand others you have to put yourself in their shoes and when they judge us no one does.

“You know my name, but not my story. You’ve heard what I’ve done but you haven’t been through what I’ve been through. You know where I am but not where I come from. You see me laughing, but you don’t know what I have suffered. Stop judging me”

-Anonymous-

We feel misunderstood, discouraged, and sometimes our self-esteem may suffer. We like people to think positively about us, care and accept us.

The flaws or those things that others have a different perspective on don’t matter. What we know is that It makes us happy to be like this, act like this and live like this. Therefore, we need the people who love us to value that more than any other secondary thing.

Judging others defines us

We have already said that the same damage that you can cause can be caused to you, so It is equally important to know and be known. The key to this is that we know ourselves through our actions.

That is to say, If we frequently judge others, the most normal thing is that they know us for it and we are judged. But, it may also happen that this is not the case and that you feel judged without deserving it.

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If you feel judged by someone right now, think that there is no reason why that person should hurt you. Don’t let what someone who isn’t trying to understand you says about you affect you: We all do not live experiences in the same way nor do we feel them the same.

That person who is now judging you is probably saying more about themselves than about you, so you have to stay strong and only allow yourself to be advised, never judge. And if you still feel bad about it, remember that When someone judges your path, you can always lend them your shoes.