The thicker the armor, the more fragile the being that inhabits it.

Being a fragile person means having a special sensitivity, which we protect with a shell, adding layers to each disappointment and frustrated feeling. Even the most sensitive person can become cold when she feels threatened by a situation she is not willing to go through.

There are situations that are difficult for all of us to face, assume and accept, such as abandonment, rejection, contempt, guilt, etc. In situations where we feel especially vulnerable, we will retreat in order to protect ourselves.. This is essential to preserve our integrity.

The character and temperament of each person will influence their behavior in these types of situations that can cause great emotional pain. That’s why There are those who expose themselves to painful situations without protecting themselves, and with a certain tendency toward masochism.until they were severely bruised and injured.

Other types of people, however, remain cautious: When they anticipate a situation similar to that of a previous experience, they are capable of putting up barriers and becoming impermeable, indifferent to any emotion or feeling.

Being fragile does not mean being weak

Both types of people described above would be at different poles, although being dependent on the same fragility. Neither jumping into the void is a healthy option, nor is entrenching yourself to become desensitized..

Frailty is commonly related and confused with weakness

Being fragile I can be strong in the face of circumstances, moving forward and conquering my fears. However, I don’t allow myself to be sensitive, even though internally I am suffering, having a hard time and feeling alone.

We are able to prove our strength when we continue to trust despite betrayals.when we move forward despite our fears and our sadness, when we show our vulnerability and sensitivity to those who deserve it.

Showing myself as I am

When we repress emotions, When we build walls against everything we feel, we allow them to only see us superficially. We even treat other people in the same way, thus having superfluous relationships without special commitment.

Can we thus know ourselves as we are? Do we give them the opportunity to really get to know us? Adding layers to our armor has these consequences, we lose who we are. We live trapped by fear, in order to keep ourselves closed to pain.

When we are especially sensitive, we develop our ability to avoid being in ourselveswe face the world developing with various profiles, which are different depending on our character: the shy and shy, withdrawn, rude, complacent, caring, those who are always there for others, etc.

Somehow, all these are our masks with which we protect ourselves, adopting a certain role. And so we avoid, whenever we can, talking about ourselves and entering into who we really are.

Learning to know myself giving way to my emotions

It is certain that I will feel the betrayal again, they will hurt me again and the scars of my wounds will open again. It is something that I cannot avoid, because it is part of life itself, of my passage through it.

If I really want to live it, learn to know myself and connect with others, I have to expose myself to the fact that all this can happen even though I feel fragile. My callousness, coldness, my armor; The shell and the walls you build are not the solution.

Hiding merging with others is my self-deception, the role I play to feel safe. It’s all a falsehood, a trick that prevents me from recognizing myself.

Overcoming disappointment

We anesthetize our sensitivity, preventing it from expressing itself., because when in the past we have had the feeling of having found the person with whom we could share it, we have been betrayed. By opening ourselves, we have lost our own direction and love, in order to accept ourselves, building again an even more real love.

we are rebuilding our identity by taking a step forward

The more exposed we are, the more likely we are to be hurt, because These changes in turn imply a transformation in the relationship with another person. and in established roles.

The disappointments we go through help us see more clearly what kind of people we want to be with.. We select through deeper issues such as values, honesty and authenticity.

After all, This whole journey has its learnings with every step we take.. Thus allowing our emotions to manifest, no matter how painful they may be, we facilitate the encounter with ourselves and the deep connection with the rest of the world.

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