The value of recognition

The recognition of others is of utmost importance for the constitution of our self. An example of this: when we are born, our acculturation process begins from the relational dynamics that are built with the other.

Recognition is a very important part of our constitution, precisely because of the contribution it makes to our well-being. When living in society, we expect recognition from others as a reference (source of information) and reinforcement of our way of acting, thinking or proposing (attitude) in the face of a situation.

Precisely, in the constitution of a person, the other conditions the image that it forms of itself, especially during the first years of life. In addition to encouragement, the child needs to feel protected from inclement weather, love, affection and respect.

In this way, your psyche is shaped in a healthy way, in the short and long term. The exterior will be an essential regulator of your desires and needs; an ecosystem to which you must adapt to survive in society.

As we see, he other plays an essential role in different stages of life. At birth, parents/guardians play a fundamental role. When we move to later stages, the circle of influence expands, so that we never stop being sensitive to the actions of others. Furthermore, within what others give or take from us, we can place recognition, which in many cases acts as a reinforcer of behavior and the idea we have of our own self.

What are the advantages of recognition?

Some of the advantages of recognition are the following:

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Promotes healthy development of self-esteem

Recognition, to the extent that it mediates our self-concept, influences how we feel about ourselves (self-esteem). A self-esteem, which as our own and faithful follower, will be a continuous reference, following us everywhere.

Let us remember that emotions are energy. Thus, the good health of our faithful companion (self-esteem) will determine the choice of projects and the attitude with which we embark on them.

Strengthens social relationships

Recognition strengthens social relationships. Whether on a personal or professional level, the person who receives recognition will feel reinforced.

Improves the level of personal satisfaction

Definitely The level of personal satisfaction improves substantially when there is recognitionespecially when we talk about work and attitude.

Decreases destructive self-criticism

Demanding people can find themselves cornered by their own critical thoughts if their work is not recognized.. Therefore, recognition is essential to hinder a negative dialogue that involves mistreatment of one’s own self.

Increases self-confidence

When a person has external recognition, they can build their self-esteem better. and boost your own confidence. Self-confidence will increase your courage in the new situations you must face every day.

What happens when the person does not get recognition?

The recognition of others is of utmost importance for the constitution of our self (seft). When the individual is born, his or her acculturation process begins based on the relational dynamics that are built with the other.

In this sense, The bond that they generate and maintain with their caregivers will be essential for their healthy development. From his desires and needs, the individual begins the dynamic relationship that exists between his Self and the outside world. In this way, he will begin to regulate himself and will be able to form, a posteriori, what Sigmund Freud has established as Reality Principle in Beyond the Pleasure Principle in 1920.

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This way, he Freud’s postulate refers to the fact that mental processes are regulated automatically by the Pleasure Principle. Then, an unpleasant tension is set in motion, the final result of which is its reduction to avoid displeasure (unpleasure being understood as the lack of recognition).

“In psychoanalytic theory we unreservedly adopt the assumption that the course of mental processes is automatically regulated by the pleasure principle.”

-Sigmund Freud

In conclusion

In short, to live in society in an adapted way we need good impulse control. In this way, the individual does not renounce his desires, but rather postpones or drifts them, to satisfy them when the time is right.

When we do not receive recognition from others, self-esteem can be dented., generating discomfort in the individual. Furthermore, the influence of reinforcement on others is especially powerful in childhood, and can be used as a very powerful tool to educate without punishment.

Definitely, Knowing that there is an other who is capable of recognizing our existence or our work in a negative way reinforces the most positive parts of our self. In addition, it increases the probability that we repeat those behaviors for which we are reinforced.