The value of calm in chaos: why calm people are a unique treasure?

Calm people are that disconcerting point of balance in a hectic world. His serene look, his correct manners and his feet on the ground usually attract the attention of others. There are those who assume that shyness hides behind them, but in reality, what underlies this profile is his good attitude towards life and a well-worked inner calm.

Albert Einstein said, very correctly, that the monotony and loneliness of a quiet life is what drives the creative mind. However, as curious as it may seem to us, this calm image continues to be little understood in our society. For example, Susan Cain reminds us of this in her books about the calm and/or introverted personality.

Thus, it is very common, for example, for that student who always appears relaxed, peaceful and silent in the classroom to be perceived as lacking initiative, shy and withdrawn. They are children “without personality,” some teachers comment lightly. Because In our society we continue to value those who participate, those who make noise and have their voice valued.

It should be said, however, that there are no better or worse personalities. Nothing is as rich for our world as that broad attitudinal and behavioral spectrum that human beings show. Each one of us, in our own way, can contribute exceptional things to our reality. Although yes, We need mutual understanding and above all to be aware of the treasure that is hidden behind each psychological profile.

The brain of calm people

The brains of calm people work differently. At first glance, this idea may catch more than one’s attention, but it must be said that it is not new. Already in the 60s, the well-known personality psychologist Hans Eysenck introduced the term brain arousal threshold. This concept served to differentiate and explain why the calmest people tend to be so different from that more extroverted profile and/or open to experience, risk, challenge…

Thus, studies such as the one carried out in 2012 at Harvard University support the same hypothesis established by Eysenck at the time. Let’s now see what it is based on and what it explains to us:

Extroverted people need a higher level of dopamine to experience well-being and happiness.. Hence, they seek to experience new sensations or have social contact more frequently to reach that level, that threshold of well-being. In the case of calm people, the opposite occurs. They find well-being with a fair level of dopamine; when that threshold of balance is exceeded, they experience anxiety, pressure and exhaustion. Relaxed situations characterized by social and sensory harmony are those that produce the most satisfaction.Likewise, structural differences have been observed in the prefrontal cortex of calm people. They have more gray matter. Something like this is linked to abstract thinking, which shows that This type of profile is more prone to reflection and introspection.

Habits of calm people

Just because a person is calm does not mean that they are happier, more competent or intelligent than those who are more restless, nervous or extroverted.. It basically means that they see the world differently. It tells us that they relate to their environment in a different way and that their daily habits are somewhat different. Understanding them, being sensitive to this profile will undoubtedly allow us to understand them much more and, why not, imitate some of their approaches if we consider them beneficial.

Characteristics of calm people

They enjoy connecting with solitude. They know that these solitary scenarios are the best path to self-discovery. It is that place to awaken creativity, calibrate fears with potential and set new objectives on the horizon.They are selective. Calm people know well what is good for them, what bothers them, and what is better to put aside or take advantage of. Hence, they should choose well their relationships and who they want in their life.There is no need to assume anything personally. Those who obsess over disagreements, disagreements or failures intensely suffer. You have to know how to relativize, establish a healthy distance between yourself and others, and understand that everything in this life is a process, and the important thing is to continue moving forward as lightly as possible.

See, listen, feel, learn… Nothing can be as enriching as connecting with our reality with all the senses. Calm people have a calm attitude, but inside they are hungry to capture sensations and learning. However, your ideal learning channel starts from silence. From that look that knows how to observe, from those ears that listen carefully, discriminating sounds from mere noise…Slowly you live better. In a world of turmoil, calm people are the only ones who are not in a hurry. And they don’t have it because they know where they are going. They know each other well enough to know what their rhythm is, what their pause is, what their music is and where they best go towards certain goals and objectives. The day-to-day life experienced slowly has a better flavor for this profile.

To conclude, let’s not underestimate the power that calm people with a more calm attitude can have… From their inner calm and more relaxed charisma they can teach us great things. Sometimes, the best revolutions start from silence.

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