The truth hurts once but a lie always hurts

The lie that is spoken to avoid pain is always the most painful, the one that leaves the greatest mark on our minds.

The truth hurts once, but the lie hurts every time you remember it.; more than anything because it traps you, hijacks your emotions, questions a thousand truths and turns into artificial what has been lived and felt up to that point.

In fact, When we are lied to we can feel derealized. Ultimately, the shock of a false or incoherent experience disorients us to the point of feeling upset with ourselves and our reality.

Because those lies that are spoken to avoid pain, in the end they hurt. And they hurt much more than any other feeling, thought or emotion caused by what you are trying to hide or disguise.

“There is no greater lie than the truth misunderstood”

-William James-

A relationship based on lies is doomed to failure

We must know that those relationships that are not built with the foundations of sincerity will behave like a fragile and weak house of cards that can destroy everything in its collapse.

Because Lying gives rise to many types of deception that question our feelings. And in order to lie it is not necessary to tell lies, it is enough to act falsely and be a faithful follower of hypocrisy. What’s more, studies like the one carried out at Princeton University show us something interesting.

Lying as well as dishonest behavior are common traits in human beings.. However, so is our need to establish relationships based on trust, which is why deception is always experienced as a genuine violation.

The lie is pronounced as a praise of itself, because only then would it make sense. Because whoever lies has to praise himself for having managed to weave a false belief and having authorized his mind to carry it out.

Let them tell us the truth and let us decide if it hurts us or not.

The emotional pain that lies generate for those who cannot justify it is deep and immense.. We suffer from situations that could have been avoided and that, by trying to protect ourselves and almost always with good intentions, others make things worse.

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However, as much as a truth can hurt What a lie generates in us will generate learning in us mediated by damage and pain. We will be able to foster our capacity for decision-making, analysis and emotional and cognitive self-determination.

In other words, we will dig other paths to get out of the tunnel, because We will learn more about the land around us and the best way to make our way through it.

However, deception is often a resource that seeks to protect oneself from the dangers of the truth. However, this generates even more regret, since those lies that are spoken to avoid pain are the most painfulthose that are perceived as more twisted and devastate the positive in their path.

Learn to protect yourself from lies

We must filter those things we say and hear, not listening to everything that comes to us and thinking critically. Let’s not forget that many times people sell us the motorcycle fully aware that the engine is broken.

To learn a little more about the criteria that we must follow when evaluating both what we hear and what we say, We bring you a Socratic teaching about the filters that our conversations must pass.

The young disciple of a wise philosopher comes home and says:

-Master, a friend was talking about you with malevolence…

-Wait! -the philosopher interrupts him-. Did you put what you are going to tell me through the three filters?

–The three filters? -asked his disciple.

-Yes, the first one is the truth. Are you sure that what you want to tell me is absolutely true?

-No. I heard it comment from some neighbors.

-At least you will have put it through the second filter, which is the goodness. Is what you want to tell me good for anyone?

-No, not really. On the contrary…

-Ah, well! The last filter is the need. Is it necessary to let me know what worries you so much?

-To tell the truth, no.

“Then,” said the wise man, smiling, If it is not true, neither good nor necessary, let us bury it in oblivion.”

Great truths also emerge from lies.

No one is more likely to believe a deception than those for whom the deception fits their desires. That’s why, To receive the truth we must be able to contain it and for that we need, without a doubt, a good container.

In the same way, when you tell a lie you must know that you have to have enough intelligence to sustain it or, on the contrary, tell the truth.

The victims of lies, once overcome, turn out to be people with great lucidity. to decipher the fragility and weaknesses of those reasonings that were once the source of his sufferings. Let’s say that through our experience we managed to become bolder, understand and suspect what is dangerous.

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This happens because one day credulity offered us the certainty that that which has not been possible to imagine or understand destroys usbecause in desperation we will try to find logical explanations and we will try to undo those knots that underlie manipulation and deception.

This will help us grow and enhance essential skills in our daily lives.thus making both our emotions and our reasoning much more intelligent.