The past is the past

I have heard that phrase for a long time, they sing it with enthusiasm in passionate songs, you see yourself in the middle of a movie and the heroine and the leading man insist on convincing themselves that the past is the past and nothing more.

But it’s not easy to do, The past is not forgotten just like that. Although it is easy to say: the past is the past! Of course…But, how much have we left in the past to move forward?

We look for reasons to justify ourselves

We are by nature, insistent. If someone abandons us, we want nothing more than to insist on discovering what went wrong in the relationship, and when nostalgia invades us, we want to rebuild it step by step, to once again allow ourselves to be carried away by a thousand useless considerations.

We look for reasons as an excuse to justify what has happened and what we felt in the past., try to find a logic to keep us calmer. And if we abandon someone, we are always thinking about what we did right, but: “what if I had done this.” An eternal return to the past, which although we do not recognize it, we all do it.

When we have made a mistake and we regret it, when we have been hurt and we feel hurt, We constantly return to the past, to regret what we did when nothing can be done, and we return to the past to regret our fate, as if there were not a thousand better things to happen in our present and in our future.

There is no such time machine that one day will take us to those moments when we were happy with someone we have lost, nor will it lead us to recover the pieces of our heart, nor will it allow us to amend our bad decisions of yesterday…

Turn the page to continue

We can only do something… I have thought about it for a long time… Years ago, when something like a breakup happened to me, I spent a lot of time building castles in the air, where things were fixed, and the same thing happened when, as a human being, I had wrong about something…

Unhappy with me, I lost energy and was exhausted from thinking about things that no longer happened, and I watched my current life pass by while I insisted on the inevitable… We have to turn the page, move on.

The best thing we can do is to think better about things when we make decisions., take risks but think that later we will live the consequences, do what we want; after all, that’s what motivates us.

That The regret of not having tried is always worse than having made a mistake.because there is no doubt about that, you were wrong, you correct yourself and move on, but if you don’t do anything, you always wonder what would have happened?

Learn from the past

Doing whatever we do and coming to terms with our past, living through the phases of denial, anger and acceptance, are healthy and normal. When we accept things, we are willing to move forward, because we have understood what happened, why, and we have overcome it.

And with the accelerated days we live in, calendar sheets subtract days from us at speeds that we barely notice. Why waste energy on time, people or things that will not come back… If, as they say, there will always be things, people, and time for more… I love to think that: “I was wrong in the past”, but I learned a lot and moved on…

There are things that I barely remember and I am not deceived about some that always stay with us, but they are no longer “toxic” or negative, they cannot even hurt or worry us, they can only serve as an experience… The rest is past and the past is forgotten and overcome

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