The only disappointment I allow myself is with myself

Disappointments, when they originate from one’s own behavior or failures, hurt much more. There are many nuances to this sensation, and it is about this that we will talk about below.

Disappointment is a feeling that, regardless of the perspective, always hurts; Well, as Martin Luther King stated, There can be no deep disappointment where there is no deep love..

In other words, disappointment comes after love. Thus, since there is no greater love than the one we should have for ourselves, Disappointment when it comes from others stings, but when it comes from within, it burns and irritates.

They can disappoint me, but they don’t sink me

You’re probably wondering what exactly we mean by allowing ourselves only personal disappointment, since anyone we love has the possibility of disappointing us. Well, let’s go a little further: Every person I love can cause me emotional pain, but it is in my hands to determine their consequences.

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can change his life by changing his mental attitude.”
-William James-

On many occasions, what happens to us is that We create such high expectations for others that, when they fail us, we think the world is falling on us. Sometimes we even think that they have to behave the way we behave, that we cannot lose them or that they have no right to make mistakes. However, thinking like this, we are the wrong ones.
Others can fail us, as much or more than we can fail them: they are also allowed to make mistakes, let us not forget that. However, Disappointments cannot sink us. On the contrary, they have to make us emerge stronger and we not allow them to win.

Disappointment in myself: a circle that must be broken out of

If they disappoint us, we run away or face it, but we still have ourselves as a refuge. However, if we are disappointed, what is the refuge? Sometimes, even if we don’t believe it, It is good to understand that our refuge is damaged and look for a way out, to be able to return safely.

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Personal disappointment introduces us to a circle of self-reproaches, feelings of guilt and discomfort. that does not allow us to continue or look forward. Therefore, it is necessary that, when this happens to us, we know how to ask for forgiveness and forgive ourselves.

Allow yourself to be disappointed but don’t let disappointment be your executioner.: Nothing happens if we have failed, there is always time to learn and mend wounds. In fact, we will only have the option of disappointment if we have taken advantage of the real options of living by letting ourselves be carried away by feelings.

“This is how a wound heals: it begins to close on itself, to protect what hurts so much and, once closed, you no longer see what is underneath, what caused the pain.”

-Amy Tan-

How to overcome your own disappointments

When we suffer our own disappointment, what happens to us is that expectations, dreams, hopes crash against the wall and we with them. However, disappointments are overcome or, rather, it is necessary that we do so. Here are some guidelines for this:

Let out everything that is hurting you: It is essential that we let off steam, but in such a way that when we take it outside we do not let it back in. Put your disappointment and those little things that make you laugh on a scale: surely in a moment of enormous disappointment, especially if we We feel the greatest disappointment in ourselves, let’s not see that out there everything is not so black. There are things that do us good, people that brighten our lives and who can help us be sunny with just a hug.Try to find a point of view where you don’t judge yourself too much. This statement is key because there is nothing worse than being a judge of something that does not allow judges, like life: it is normal for us to be uncomfortable and sad at times, to feel that nothing is going well, but we do not do everything wrong. Everything in its own right. fair measure: sometimes, we tend to involuntarily exaggerate what we feel, especially if it is something bad. Let’s forget about that, A disappointment is important, but we have to turn the page, look for opportunities that allow us to disappoint ourselves again so that every day continues to be worth it.Relax and enjoy the learning: above all, disappointment is synonymous with a lesson. Life lessons are there to observe, live and be aware of the next time we are required to rise to the occasion. When we are disappointed in ourselves or others, we have to go out, enjoy other things, clear our minds and recover.