The most difficult rival to beat is in your head

While I consider how I am going to develop the topic of this article, Laura Ordoñez is playing in the background and her music helps me reflect on what I want to convey to you. To my ears she tells me: fear, fear follows you; and I wonder if he is right and he toughest rival to beat to overcome my problems is within me.

It is my head that asks me to shouts the opportunity that I do not offer and, yet, I insist on blaming ghosts that do not exist. Or even by existing, I am giving them authority when I let them through to block me.

While I review the options to continue like this, I understand that jump over the barriers After having accepted them, it will be the most comforting solution for my well-being. Think, in the end External enemies are nightmares that must be overcome, however internal enemies seek understanding and strength.

Control your fears

Imagine, imagine I achieve it and my fear, my most tenacious rival, loses the battle. Why not? The fears that hold me back have power over me, since they only want to see me fall. However, I will be able to control the fears that I name and use them to foster a brave self-esteem.

“Don’t call someone who is afraid a coward, just hug them and tell them that, on the contrary, monsters exist until you give them a name.”

-Elvira Sastre-

Millions of times we have been burdened with dreams and we have believed that we could not get closer to them because circumstances or people prevented us from doing so. But the truth is that most of those times we have forgotten that others have the power over us that we grant them and that circumstances are less black the more we look at them in the face.

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Use difficulty as motivation

Circumstances or people, both things can become problems. I, for example, have all kinds of them and they are probably a little different from yours, since we are as different as what we live through. There is, furthermore, that difficulties are relative, according to which something small for you can drown me.

On top of this, too We all have an emotional destiny that is universal: to achieve health and balance of feelings. The moment I start to think that I am incompetent, that I am wrong more than right, that I need something but I don’t feel capable of getting it… I am creating a huge rival in my head.

“We must impose our will on our weaknesses”

-Carlos Slim-

There is no worse feeling than the one that brutally turns us into enemies of ourselves.. So why don’t I try to use all that adversity as motivation? I have decided to make a list of stones that hinder me and build with them a place that helps me feel closer to the sky and less anchored to the ground.

Your happiness is in your hands

The song has changed, but Laura Ordoñez still plays. The desire was strong, sings. I have decided that If the biggest rival to beat is me, I will fight with my will until I win peace: I will try to be more daring, I will leave the past behind, I will reject resentment and hatred, I will end the lie and, above all, I will close the door to other people’s judgments that seek to harm me.

The external enemies become bigger as the internal ones also get bigger, because it is as if they have a method of discovering you vulnerable and thus binding your will to move forward. That’s why The first thing I want to do is avoid hurting myself, give myself the opportunity to be my best friend.

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In fact only a good friend would want my happiness. I want my happiness and it is in my hands. Am I not enough with the free and external damage that I can receive from outside? Why put up barriers for myself? Why prevent me from dreaming and fulfilling my dream? And a lot of stars wanted to align.