The gray people are turning off the lights

Negative people often try to dim the light of others (directly or indirectly), so knowing how to identify these influences is very important. We give you some recommendations to know how to act in this type of situation.

Gray people discourage the dreams of othersThey judge, they humiliate, they lie, they want to make you complex because of who you are. They go through life always with the intention of subtracting, not adding. They say hurtful phrases without caring in the slightest about how you may feel.

The gray people are turning off the lights, and one of them could be yours. The motives? They are not clear. There are people who, instead of transforming their pain into healing for themselves, have chosen to discourage others so that their world is more in tune with who they are. Because you cannot see their brightness or darkness, you can only notice the harmful effect they leave on you.

There are many ways to cancel another person: devalue everything they do, ridicule their dreams by advising you to always throw in the towel and, in this way, leaving behind emotional corpses that are in tune with their “bad energy.”

The world is full of noble and wonderful people who vibrate with life even having suffered his blows. They refuse to become someone they really are not. But unfortunately a person with a light can encounter many of these people along the way and it can end up going out.

Perhaps when they turn off, they become resentful people who repeat the behaviors that once made them completely break down. It is a chain of negativity that we must prevent from reaching us.

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If you are a person with light, others may want to turn it off

What are people like with light? Many of us would say that they are those people who “bring smiles”, moderate but committed to the problems around them. Without a desire for prominence but they end up being so in the most intimate corners of many souls who come to them for their empathy and character. People with light transmit peace.

But above all, enlightened people do not carry a backpack of reproaches, judgments, hurtful or humiliating comments. People with light have dreams, they adapt to their environment without letting social conventions override them and most importantly: they do not want to end their lives with unrealized dreams but with experiences to remember.

If they perceive that another person is also fighting for the same thing, they do not compete or envy him, they will simply choose him as a traveling companion. People with light encourage and support others because they rejoice in their joys.

“I consider the one who conquers his desires to be braver than the one who conquers his enemies, since the hardest victory is the victory over oneself.”

-Aristotle-

Your best weapons to preserve your light

To prevent your light from going out when difficulties arise or from gray people trying to turn it off at some point in your life, you can carry out some strategies that will serve as protection:

Ignore: Don’t confront, don’t try to prove anything. If you hear comments that are meant to discourage you, don’t waste energy convincing them that they are wrong. You need that energy for your path.Surround yourself with people with the same values as you: You will be able to meet very different people throughout your life, but if you meet someone with your same values, the road will not be so uphill.Stay away from the drama: Stay away from people who encourage drama, even with the small vicissitudes of your life. Don’t let the stigma that others promote take over you and what you do.You might be interested…Practice humor: Gray people do not tolerate humor, because for them everything is a sign of danger and negativity, so refuse to not practice smiles. What humor has united, let society not separate.
Believe that your ideas are worthwhile: Someone said that if a person does not fight for their ideas, either they are worthless or the person is worthless. So if you think your ideas are worth it because we can live with more freedom and joy among ourselves, don’t doubt them.Don’t measure success by money, fame or stability: In this life there are no answers, there are only stories. Make yours meaningful to you without measuring yourself by established parameters.If someone judges you, lend them your shoes: Don’t forget that there will always be people willing to judge how badly you have led your life without caring in the slightest about the circumstances you have had to face. But those people are nothing in your life, and if they are… why do you continue allowing them to do it?Trust your charm: Trust your charm and your way of doing things, but with humility and without believing that you have nothing more to learn.

“Charm is what you have until you believe it”

-Simone de Beauvoir-

What to do if you feel like your light has gone out

Fortunately, In this life we are not just what happens to us or what we believe we are. Personality is built throughout life and it is true that some experiences change, but only as a change that transforms, not as something immutable and fixed.

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If you have lost hope for everything and some people you have met have hurt you more than you ever imagined, you have the right to feel strange and sad for a while, but If you lose hope and abandon your dreams, it will be difficult for you to find meaning in your existence again.

It would be great to try it again. Don’t let them take away your enthusiasm again, your little ways of savoring life in your own way, which is unique. Don’t give those gray people the pleasure of losing the meaning of your existence. They have already ruined theirs and it would be good for you to ask yourself this question: Do you want to be one of them?