The 5 things a man thinks when a woman sends him messages

We have all been at the crossroads between sending or not sending a message.

You want to communicate and connect with that guy you’ve started to meet.

Maybe he takes things more calmly than you and isn’t one of those guys who writes all the time. You may have sensed an interest on his part but his silence baffles you.

Anxiety could take over and you wonder if it’s okay to be the one to send the first message.

But at the same time there are doubts about what he will think when he receives it.

The truth is that launching yourself to write to him could be very risky. We know that men are special when it comes to seduction. Some still have that instinct where they need to be the first to conquer.

But it is also true that today and fortunately relations have evolved a lot. And writing to him could also be an opportunity to show him that he has a chance with you. If he’s interested, sending him a message could be the start of something wonderful.

We know that it is not a face to face where the response is immediate. And the key here is knowing when the timing is right and what message you want to send.

But don’t despair, here we will see all the possibilities of what he might think when he receives a message from you. And later a guide to decide whether or not you should send that text.

The 5 possible things that a man thinks when a woman sends him messages

1) “I love women with initiative”

Although for some women this may seem counterintuitive, there are many men who appreciate a woman who is sincere and who makes the first move.

After all, who doesn’t like receiving a message from someone interesting and interested?

You feel valued and wanted.

So why would you be surprised if he likes to receive a message from you?

He may think that you are a confident girl who knows what she wants. And appreciate it very much.

I am always in favor of expressing what we feel, so at least we give the other the opportunity to open up too.

But still, you should always be careful not to overdo it. Remember that there are men who are intimidated by very determined women.

Get a little closer, but then distance yourself. This will give him a chance to go after you, if he’s really interested.

2) “He has finally written to me”

Another reaction that you might not have expected is for him to be glad to receive a message from you because he has, in fact, been expecting it.

Maybe he didn’t want to seem too pushy and left a space to see if you would write to him.

He might think that showing too much interest on his part will cause your attraction to him to lessen.

Then when you’ve finally done it, he’ll be so glad to hear from you.

This is especially likely if he is a shy or insecure guy, he may need a little more from you first before he can move on.

Also, if you write to him first, you will help him lose the fear of being rejected.

So, if he responds quickly and is excited to read you, you know that he was waiting for your message.

He may also be quick to ask you out, so as not to miss his opportunity.

3) “What a surprise, this girl is different from the others”

This guy might think, upon receiving a text from you, that it’s a cool and refreshing way to interact with a girl.

Men are used to being the ones after the girl. So that you write to him first can be pleasant and new.

This action could make him feel special and important and he will love this gesture from you.

He might also think that you are a girl without so much drama, and that dating you could be something easy and spontaneous.

The truth is, there are many things that women can do to conquer any man that interests us.

We can make them see us as the only woman in their life.

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4) “Another one that fell into my networks”

We are here to see all the possibilities, and this is one of them.

There are some guys who just enjoy seducing as many girls as they can.

So if you write to him, he will simply reaffirm his vision of himself as a great conqueror.

If it is a particularly attractive guy, it is possible that he will not even bother to write to you, because the truth is that he has many options.

So he waits to choose the girl he finds most interesting. This type of guy is the one you want to keep away from.

You should be aware of these red alerts:

5) “This girl is looking for a boyfriend”

And even if you haven’t even thought about the possibility that this guy is your boyfriend, some men just have this prejudice burned into their minds.

Some guys are so afraid of commitment that they think that’s what all women want. Or maybe you’re going through a difficult time emotionally and can’t even think of dating someone.

So if this is the case with your boy, he will simply be terrified. He will think that (even though you don’t know him) you have become obsessed with him.

Clearly this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with their own unresolved issues.

However, if he gets chased away by a simple message, it’s better for you to keep running.

A self-confident and emotionally mature man will be happy when a pretty girl like you writes to him.

And you will know that first you need to get to know each other, to find out if there could be something more between you.

Should you write to him or not?

We return to our original question of whether or not it is a good idea to send him a message.

Here are the considerations that you should take to do it or not, and feel confident that it is the right thing to do.

1) Reflect on what you are really looking for with this message

It is always a good idea to think about why we do or say something.

So take some time to think about what makes you want to write to him.

Do you want to know this boy better?
Do you feel lonely?
Looking for a one night stand?
Have you had a fight with your boy and want revenge?

It is important to first be clear about what you are looking for, to know if it is a good idea to write to them and then evaluate how to move forward.

If you think you won’t want this person around later on, maybe you should think twice before hitting the send button.

2) Have you dated this guy yet?

Another important point to consider is the context in which you will write to him.

If you’ve already dated and you feel like things are on the right track, it might definitely be a good idea to write to her.

You could mention something you talked about on your way out.

Maybe you go down the street and see something that reminds you of something he said. Could you send him a photo and say: Why did this remind me of you?

3) Do you want to ask him out?

I think we’ve already covered this.

If you like this guy and you think there is mutual interest, just go for it!

Some options to do so would be:

Hey, how are you? Do you feel like having a beer one of these days? Hello, I hope you are well. I remembered you today and I wanted to say hello Good morning, a question. What is your opinion of sushi?

Simple, short texts and the main thing. Let them go straight to the point. In the end, what you want is for him to know that you are interested.

Do not complicate yourself thinking for hours about the “perfect” message. The important thing is to take the step to start the exchange.

Now, as we already mentioned, there’s a chance he might not be interested, and that’s okay.

It will be a few days that you feel a little weird, but then you will be ready to move on. And more prepared.

Take it as a game and an opportunity to learn about the world of conquest.

You have a new chance to meet someone wonderful next time.

4) You have already written to him before

If you have already tried to write to him before without success, you should read the message between the lines: he is not really interested in you.

Put the phone aside for a while. Forget this boy because he doesn’t suit you.

Unless you’ve been chatting back and forth for days, trust me you don’t want to chase him down with messages.

A guy who likes you will take the time to answer you. And he won’t let weeks go by without texting you.

Also, it’s not a good idea to always be the one to start the conversation. He will think that you are too available and he will lose interest quickly.

The reality is, when a man is attracted to you, there will be signs in his behavior.

Most notably, he will take the initiative, want to protect you and earn your respect.

In other words, he will act like your hero.

According to this concept, the hero instinct, a man is much more likely to be attracted to a woman when he feels a provider and protector.

Although we live in such a modern age, here is the ironic truth. Men still need to feel like heroes. Because it’s built into their biology to seek a relationship with a woman who makes them feel like a hero.

So if you want this guy to be attracted to you (and ultimately commit to a relationship), then beyond texting, you need to activate his hero instinct.

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There is an art to doing this that can be a lot of fun when you know exactly what to do.

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James Bauer, the relationship psychologist who first coined the term, reveals the simple things you can do today to trigger this all-natural masculine instinct.

Here is a link to the free video again.

5) He has written to you and is waiting for an answer

If you are wondering in this case if you should reply to their messages or not. This is completely up to you.

Ask yourself if you are interested in this guy and what you are interested in for.

My philosophy is to treat others as you would like to be treated.

So I think honesty is a good starting point.

If you are not interested, you can tell him that you liked meeting him but that you have not felt that connection that you are looking for. You can propose to be friends if that’s something you’d like.

And if you like this boy, just play along and see where they go.

6) You are in a difficult moment in your life

If this boy…