Simon Syndrome: single and immature

Simon Syndrome defines a profile of men who praise only their own person, who do not commit emotionally and who only seek social success.

We live in a time where it is common to put “labels” on almost any behavior or profile that is repeated with certain frequency.. Simon Syndrome is one of those examples. It is a nomenclature (that without having clinical evidence) adjusts to a new masculine modality of this 21st century.

It could be said that it is a variable of the so-called Peter Pan syndrome. That is to say, Simón syndrome is indicated when a man between 28 and 38 years old only wants to have fun, does not commit emotionally and changes interests and occupations almost every moment without ever “settling down,” as they usually say.

The myth of Narcissus is fulfilled perfectly with this character that we now call Simon. Each of the letters in his name is an acronym and a characteristic of his personality: S for single, I for immature, M for materialistic, O for work-obsessed and N for narcissist.

I think real maturity, which most of us never reach, is when you realize that you are not the center of the universe.

-Katherine Paterson-

Simón syndrome, what are the people who suffer from it like?

The psychiatrist Enrique Rojas defines him as the light man of our millennium. Other specialists speak of this syndrome as a mere lack of commitment to emotional relationships. However, from a social point of view, it should be noted that many other specialists point out that it could define both men and women.

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It’s more, There are those who point out that this profile could be the result of “emperor syndrome.” That is, people who in their childhood were educated without having limits, were capricious children and clearly authoritarian with their parents. Let’s see, therefore, the characteristics that define it.

1. Singleness

We can define singleness as the absence of a stable partner or serious commitment. For many, Being alone is something that has been revalued over timesomething positive where we don’t have to need someone with us to be happy, feel complete or fulfilled.

This is one aspect, but on the other hand, there is Simon’s syndrome. In this case, these young people have a somewhat erroneous idea of what freedom is, since They think that being in a relationship is the same as living locked in a cage. Losing their “single” status for love is not something that interests them too much.

2. Immaturity

Immaturity in the person with Simón syndrome is directly related to the sentimental aspect. That is, not only do they avoid establishing a mature and stable relationship, but they also They are incapable of loving authentically, safely, with commitment, courage and respect.

They don’t even give themselves the chance to discover what it means to be in love, to give themselves completely and to have a project in common with someone. They can only love themselves and, although these may be people with many professional skills, they usually have very few emotional skills.

Under all this we could say that they feel a very big fear of committing to someone (in the sense of starting a formal relationship). Today’s society is creating many of these “Simons”, men who focus only on their work, their friends, their studies and their fun.

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3. Materialists: excitement and consumption of the new over stability

Those who are included in the “Simon Syndrome” in turn are not looking for a person to form a partner, but are obsessed with succeeding at work and professionally, traveling the world, taking care of their body and having a good time. They prefer the emotion of the moment, to the security of stability.

They do not mind sacrificing themselves completely to climb positions in their work and usually have an almost infinite ego. They may live alone or with their parents, but never as a couple. They spend their salaries only on satisfying their desires and spend everything they have. Furthermore, they do not save nor are they concerned about their future economic security beyond maintaining their job.

3. The obsession with success

The number one priority for those who suffer Simon’s Syndrome is having the appropriate economic position. So that? Well, to spend that money on what gives you pleasure and allows you to live every day to the fullest, as if there were no tomorrow.

The fact of having a certain economic power makes them think that they are somewhat invulnerable, that nothing bad can happen to them. That life is to be enjoyed 100% and that there is no pleasure that cannot be given, from buying an expensive suit to going on vacation with friends for a month in the Caribbean.

4. Narcissism

When we talk about narcissism we must distinguish two realities. The first is narcissistic personality disorder, which, according to a study carried out at Belmont University, Massachusetts, affects only 1 or 2% of the population.

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On the other hand, there are those who only present certain characteristics, thus forming a personality style (but not a disorder). Simon syndrome defines this last style.

They can spend hours lifting weights in the gym, go through the operating room and get the odd “fix,” orchestrate a type of life that, in essence, seeks only to enhance their image.

To conclude, the following question will now come to all of us: and what happens with women? Can they also be a “Simon”? Of course yes, but in that case, they would be called “Laura”, that is, L for liberated, A for autonomous, U for university student, R and A for rationalizing love. Do you know someone with these characteristics?