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“The freedom of the other is the greatest demonstration of love possible”

Sacrifice is the opposite of love.

​because the sacrifice It implies killing a feeling that is still alive.
Something that could have made us flourishwhich could still have amazed and enriched us.
But we root it out so it never ever shows up.

That amputation of the self in favor of the other.

That annulment of desires.
That castration of desires.

It has nothing to do with really loving someone.
It has more to do with pleasing.

With the fact that they adore you and continue to adore you.

To make it impossible to leave you with everything you’ve done for the other person.
To build yourself a bunker of kindness where it’s impossible for anyone to blame you for anything.
In which to be able to recriminate when the other is not up to it.

In which you always remain as the person who was right because he was good.
Because you moved, quit, or quit.

But you had another choice.
You always choose.
You could have said no.

Love often has to do with saying no.

With taking care of what you have been and not losing yourself in the other.
By keeping enough distance to know who you were before and above all who you want to be after.

And this does not mean that in relationships you do not have to give in sometimes.
Of course love requires consensus.

But to reach that consensus requires honesty.

Verbalize what is yours and what others cannot enter.
That which does not concern anyone.
And that deserves to be respected.

That’s why when you let someone sacrifice themselves for you.

When you let him give up what he loves for you.
When you prefer him by your side than performing.
When you try to modify their behaviors to fit yours.

When you change irretrievably.
And all this in the name of love.

Perhaps you are not loving that person well.
Because you allow him to stop being the person he is because of you.
And when you do that, you don’t care in the least about the other person.

All human beings are born knowing absolutely nothing about life.
We learn everything.
And we can also unlearn it.

we can start question our way of relating.

To deconstruct the idea of ​​love that we have been sold as unique.
to analyze how many of the things that harm us and make us suffer are taught.

How many are false myths that are erected as absolute truths.

we can start reject sacrifice as a symptom of great love.

We can start to stop saying that: look how much he loves me because he has sacrificed everything for me.
we can start to believe that the freedom of the other is the greatest demonstration of love possible.

I want you to always be with me.
More you than ever.
And thus be able to say: look how much he loves me that he loves me as I am.

He wants me free.

Even.
To leave.