Seducing is an art

Seduction has been associated with something deceptive and sometimes evil. But sometimes it is done unconsciously and involuntarily and, furthermore, seducing is almost always done for the purpose of mutual sentimental benefit. In fact, to love someone is to be seduced by that person.

To improve our seduction before others, it is key to know what we do and why we do it.what expressions cause us discomfort and, furthermore, do not give us results.

The key sites to seduce

In his book The Lovemaking Arts, Ovid already shed some clues about how and where to find the woman he loves. and about how to get her love. It is quite practical, and recommends the practice of seduction in places designed for it, such as parties, theaters, forums, triumph celebrations, banquets, new year’s Eve, etc.

Ovid and the Kamasutra, the classics of seduction, give us some recommendations How to get the other person’s interest:

Make gifts of value (whether sentimental or material). Do not contradict him/her in the first meetings. Sit close to him/her or dance nearby. If possible, organize a meeting prepared so that the person knows in advance our interest.

Seduction is not only used to flirt

We can seduce to provoke the interest of others in us. Also to awaken curiosity, generate a desire to know us in others, make others feel comfortable in our company, look for us and love us…

And use seduction not only for pubs and clubs, since although they are a good place, we can meet someone interesting anywhere else.

People are never the same, we change over time. Therefore, we do not always desire the “same person” we are with. Besides, The beautiful thing is to discover every day what is new in the other person.

But…what is seduction?

Seducing is about causing interest and transforming it into desire, get someone to notice us in a positive and curious way. It is about settling in their imagination permanently, making their desire to meet us grow every moment. Feed desire, generating the expectation of the possible.

The physique… Is it necessary to be handsome?

Well it’s not. In fact, some people, in order to have a good physique, do not take care of other aspects of their personality that ultimately become shortcomings. It is about enhancing our virtues and hiding our defects, even if we accept them.

But there’s only one chance for a first impression so You have to take care of personal hygiene and look awake and healthy. If necessary, we have to make small image changes, the limit is to continue being ourselves.

And the body language?

Someone’s photo may attract us, but It is only the body expression and the dynamics of your body that will cause us attraction or total disinterest. It is closely related to the unconscious world and each of us is attracted to specific models of behavior. You have to be careful with impulsiveness and also with an overly passive attitude.

What happens if they reject us?

You can keep trying if you notice that the person was not very receptive or they weren’t the right circumstances. Maybe your skills are not as developed as you think. Perhaps you have started with very lofty goals, you have not tried in the right way. You must take into account your mistakes and not repeat them. You must practice more.

Contrary to simplistic views of men and women, Anderson (1968) states that there are some fundamental characteristics that people who are successful in love share.contrary to the myth “that being bad hooks the other person more.”

It states that the most valued people are sincere, honest, understanding, loyal and trustworthy. Meanwhile, the least valued are liars, mean, false, cruel and dishonest.

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