Scientists Revealed What Things Make People Feel Loved (Spoiler: There’s Something Better Than Saying “I Love You”)

Imagine the following situation: during the day your partner often calls and writes messages asking how everything is going and what you are doing. What feelings does it cause? A feeling of inner warmth because someone loves you and cares about you? Or the one that your half is pushing and doesn’t give you a second of rest? Scientists in the United States also asked themselves these questions and decided to understand what really gives a person the feeling of being loved. And the results weren’t as obvious as one might think.

O awesome.club studied the scientists’ conclusions and shares them with you.

The study was done with a total of 495 Americans, among people of different social classes, educational models and marital status. All had to evaluate 60 statements made by scientists.

The key question that all study participants needed to answer was the following:
🇧🇷Most people will feel loved if each of these statements is applied to
them individually?🇧🇷

Participants had to make assumptions about the opinion of most people and not about their personal preferences in a particular situation.

Among the 60 statements that the participants agreed or disagreed with were also the following sentences (they all begin with “Most people feel loved…”):

when he receives praise; when it is supported by someone, without expecting anything in return; when you are involved in playing sports; when someone supports your goals in life; when someone listens to them; when you feel part of a team;

when receiving gifts; when someone spends all their free time with her; when someone shows sympathy (a smile or a loving look); when the team recognizes its contribution; when you spend time with your children; when someone forgives his mistakes;

and so on.

As a result, the scientists were able to analyze the 60 statements and identify which of them were false or true. It turns out that many people really feel loved when others around them perform romantic actions towards them, such as hugs, confessions of love, or just caresses.

It was very interesting to see that the people also feel loved in completely different situations that are in no way related to something romantic. For example, when a child hugs them or a pet welcomes its owner when he comes home.

In these cases, at the same time, a statement like “I love you” makes the person feel loved. But, for example, the contact with the child, in this matter, was even more effective.

The statements that a person feels loved when eating tasty food or enjoying the sunalthough these two points are not linked to interpersonal relationships.

At the same time, situations that, at least a little, are related to controlling or imposing their opinion (such as “when someone wants to know where and how they spend all their time”, “when someone says what will be best for them”, “ when someone tries to change their life, making it healthier”), in most cases were considered negative situations. Participants in this study are convinced that people cannot feel loved in these types of situations.

The researchers found that men, as a rule, they often know less than most people would consider a manifestation of love. Previous studies have shown that men tend to perceive the concept of love differently than women. In many cases, excessive care and concern on the part of men, through which they express their love, is perceived by women as an attempt to control and pressure.

It was also found that people who are in a relationship and those with neurotic personality traits were more aware of situations in which a person feels loved. The first group, because it often faces this. And the second, because they listen to people and try to understand them.

Thus, this study showed that a person can feel loved in simple situations of everyday life that are not linked either to sentimental relationships or to human beings. We hope this study will help you to better understand yourself and others. Perhaps, for your partner, gifts and expressions of your feelings are not enough to feel all your love. Talk and find out what generates this feeling in both of you.

What is it that helps you feel loved? Tell us in the comments.