Psychologist talks about lack of love and its consequences

Many people, even knowing that certain relationships have no future, insist on staying together with certain people, betting their chips and their feelings on stories that will not end well. But, in some cases, we need to end stories like this as quickly as possible so we don’t lose our essence.

Russian psychologist Anna Kiryanova described precisely what lack of love is, and in awesome.club, We share your insights. They can be useful for you to understand your own feelings and value people who are, in fact, worth it. Check out!

Lack of love is when you are not allowed to disturb, talk, laugh or hug. By the rules of this type of relationship, you cannot express your concern because it is foolish and not a real reason to suffer. You cannot ask for anything, but instead you must understand that the situation is very difficult. Also, why do you need another outfit? You cannot rely on other people for help because adults must solve their problems on their own. Even if you are 5 years old, it is already an advanced age. And if you are already 35 years old, you are already old or old. And it’s not good to wear such flashy clothes when you’re an almost elderly person.

The lack of love is when they don’t scold you, but they don’t praise you either. That’s when you are ignored. It’s feeling uncomfortable when you’re having lunch with a loved one because you’re afraid they’ll say you eat too much. And that person will eat what you cooked and will not say anything, nor will he notice your effort, if you cleaned everything and put flowers in a vase. Lack of love is when nothing is possible. When you get angry, bother, do something, talk nonsense, go crazy. The only thing you can do is wait for them to take you for a ride. And don’t complain, don’t cry, be quiet and wait. When they don’t defend you and say “it’s the culprit”… then that’s a lack of love.

When they don’t give you anything, when they don’t want to spend money on you, it’s also a lack of love. It’s not hate. Sometimes it’s worse, because people hate it for some reason, for example out of envy. And you can walk away or fight back. But the lack of love doesn’t even have reasons. Even if they say, “I love you, just leave me alone, will you come with this again?” that is a lack of love. And it destroys everyone, especially the elderly, children and dogs.

Lack of love makes a shy, clumsy person feel embarrassed and ugly, afraid of ruining everything, bothering, causing irritation… There’s nothing you can do. If you have the strength, go away… or at least understand clearly that this is a lack of love.