Our perspective, the key to our success or our failure

Your perspective changes your emotions, and this is your reality. Be careful that the way you interpret what happens leads you to confidence instead of helplessness.

Written and verified by the psychologist Elena Sanz.

There are people who wait for the situations around them to be favorable in order to feel happy. And there are those who decide to feel good despite external conditions. Our perspective is the key to our well-being, but also to our success or failure.. The attitude we adopt influences the actions we take, and these are what define our lives.

The person who lives with resentment, anger and incomprehension sees the world as a place of injustice. He feels like a helpless victim and ends up leading a frustrating existence. On the contrary, Those who look with the glasses of optimism and resilience always find the opportunity and are not satisfied. Whoever takes responsibility for their life discovers that they have the power to transform it.

What is your perspective?

It is easy to check how The prism through which we observe situations can radically change the outcome. It is enough to take any event in our daily lives that we find annoying or unpleasant. Maybe our first impulse is to complain, lament, wonder why it happens to us, or get angry at those involved.

Thus we will begin to feel anger, anguish or hopelessness. And, consequently, our behavior will be directed towards confronting other people or wallowing in suffering without taking action. But, Faced with the same event, we can decide to accept it and learn something. In this way we will feel calm, capable and motivated to find a solution and act.

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The way you choose to interpret what happens generates more or less positive feelings in you. And it is these emotions that lead you to take certain actions or others. Therefore, always be aware of how you are interpreting. Remember that it is your choice and that it can lead you to success or stagnation.

Past

But it is not only the perspective we adopt towards a present event that can influence us. It is rather a philosophy of life that must be rooted and guide our interpretations towards what is positive and functional.. For example, the approach with which we observe the past significantly affects our present behavior.

If in the past I was harmed and I have not been able to integrate that experience and forgive, today I will act with fear and suspicion., it will be difficult for me to trust and I will be defensive. If I previously had difficulty socializing and have self-imposed the label of clumsy, I will tend to distance myself from others (even today) to avoid making a fool of myself.

Definitely, You have the decision to choose if the past conditions you or drives you to improve. You can choose to see yourself as a victim of your experiences or as an active and resilient individual, who learns from each failure to get closer to his goal.

Future

Even our perspective on what has not yet happened is of great importance. Imagine that you visualize your future as prosperous, abundant and happy.. You trust that you will have your dream job and healthy and enriching social relationships. From this perspective, the emotion that awakens in your body is optimism and vitality.

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Such an approach encourages you to action. Let’s work to achieve that splendid future that you already consider yours. This way, it will be easy for you to train, do internships, undertake… you will have the motivation and self-confidence you need. You will also be able to be selective with your friends, partners and people around you. When you trust that you can achieve what you want, you don’t feel the need to settle for less.

On the contrary, if you imagine your future as something negative and out of your control, you will remain paralyzed and helpless.. If you believe that you will have to take any job, if you feel that you will have to settle for hurtful people, you will accept that reality in your life.

Your perspective creates your world

The tangible circumstances that surround you arise from your attitude, your beliefs, your convictions. Therefore, pay attention to how you interpret, the limits you impose on yourself and what you think about life. Choose, in each moment, the disposition that leads you to trust in your abilities, not to settle and to be at peace. Of all the possible options, Choose that perspective that makes your past a learning experience, your present a haven of peace, and your future a place full of possibilities.