Neither you are for so much nor I for so little

It’s not about belittling. When we say out loud that “neither you are good for so much nor am I good for so little”, We are not undervaluing the other person. We are talking about a game of forces where someone is losing.

Loving means building a meaningful and enriching relationship where every effort is rewarded.. We give and receive what we deserve, and that is something that is done with freedom and authenticity.

There are those who often express to their partner the idea that he or she “deserves everything.” And without a doubt it will be like that, because to love is to wish all the best for that being that lives in our heart. We would give everything for our partner.

Now, it is neither appropriate nor healthy to emotionally cling to the other person to the point of fading our own integrity. No one is worth so much that you are left with so little. We invite you to think about it.

Don’t settle for little and don’t want it all

Often, In our emotional relationships we tend to fall into those ideas of all or nothing. They are unions based on absolute dedication, where personal interests have no place, a love that does not want middle ground and is pleased only with extremes.

Neither of us deserve everything from the other person, because We also have the right to have our own corners. To cultivate our individuality, and that personal growth that is achieved with one’s own choices, without the control that some couples sometimes exercise over their spouses. Sometimes, the so-called “romantic love” is what popularizes this idea of ​​all-or-nothing relationships. They are couples who understand love as control, as personal possession. Where jealousy is part of the relationship, we should not aspire to have everything from the other person. No one is the owner of another’s life no matter how much they love it.it is simply a matter of reciprocity, a union based on a choice of two mature people who seek to build a “life together.”

Don’t settle for little. There are no half loves or loves today I love you but tomorrow I have to think about it. Living in emotional uncertainty generates suffering. AND Living in a relationship where one is above the other, chisels shortcomings in our hearts.

I want to be for you what you are for me

There would be the authentic essence, the fullest and healthiest truth. I want to be for you what you are for me. And indeed, we know that achieving this is sometimes very difficult, which is something we all aspire to.

It is possible that all these concepts are difficult for you to achieve and that you see it more as an aspiration than a reality. However, There is no hope that the mind does not dream and that our emotions yearntherefore we invite you to reflect on these ideas:

Before getting obsessed with looking for a person who complements you, or who is capable of filling your shortcomings, Try to become what you want to find.Heal your wounds, find your balance and be the architect of your own life to be that person who knows how to be happy with himself, and in turn, make others happy.Avoid those unhealthy attachments where you can blindly cling to someone. Don’t let your happiness depend on the whims or mood swings of the other person. No one deserves to be loved badly, at times, with their eyes closed or at the extremes of today I give you everything and tomorrow only a little.

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