My social circle is select, honesty is essential

Just because you want your circle of friends or people you most trust to practice honesty and be trustworthy does not make you a “snob.” or in a calculating person. It makes you someone who knows what he wants and therefore does not want to waste any more valuable time or make others lose it.

Perhaps you maintain relationships that border on the absurd and prolong them for too long for the simple convenience of not ending them. He who never gives, one day he will end up getting tired Even the most patient and those who give little and give it badly will only generate tension.

Selecting your circle is being smart

Sometimes, setting limits on our patience opens our tolerance towards issues that DO deserve it. Putting up with lying, presumptuous people who don’t seem to wish us the best for days, months and years doesn’t seem like a good idea, right?

We already know that we are always going to meet people we dislike, they could be our bosses or someone in our family. If it is one of these types of union, it will be more difficult to cut it or move away from it. But now, we don’t mean that. We are talking about those people that you can remove from your life, they cause you discomfort and nothing that they offer you is worth it. You only continue with the relationship because of appearance, fear or lack of self-esteem .

An image designed for our relationships

As we grow, evolve or change, most people modify the way they approach social relationships, especially close ones. Although in adolescence and youth we like to interact with a large number of people, in adulthood we tend to prefer quality over quantity, hence considering honesty as an essential ingredient in our relationships. We don’t have as much time, we have less fun and the time we share we like to spend with people who enrich us.

If we look around us, we will see how there are certain social agents who focus on appearance, image or marketing. Not only of companies, but also of people. They tell us that we have to create a personal brand that is as attractive as possible to others. We have to get an impeccable profile that includes the work part, but also the personal part. A brand designed by and to look like a competitive product, not to be authentic.

Far from pointing out social networks as a harmful element, since in reality it is fun and useful on many occasions, We become more aware of the importance of being sincere with ourselves and of honesty in our relationships. Of necessity, free of urgency and falsehood that allows us to make our most direct context a source of good feelings and not of continuous grievances.

Once again we must point out that we do not want to fall into a false idealism: it is simply a matter of urging ourselves, as far as possible, to avoid that which no longer brings us anything and that may have even bothered us and made us feel bad on certain occasions.

What are you looking for? Look for it without guilt

There are many people with histrionic and narcissistic tendencies who seek to surround themselves with relationships that bring them fame, popularity or contacts. In this way, relationships are denatured and become a means, as artificial as technology, to achieve other purposes.

On the other hand, although these types of people exist, Most of us seek relationships as ends in themselves. and that they have honesty as a habit. In that case, they could be means to make our brief time in the world more pleasant, but nothing more. Therefore, if you are looking for true relationships, if it is really what you want for yourself, do not ask for less.

Maybe you too one day stopped being interesting to someone. You tried his patience, you bored him with your conversations or your mere presence was no longer to his liking. Despite everything, you are still here, you were able to endure it. Therefore, do not hesitate in your efforts to surround yourself with honesty and simplicity in your relationships, even if they go through difficult times.

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