My parents are blind so I wanted to have a wedding in the dark, but my in-laws don’t like the idea.

When we have an event to organize, the task can take on Herculean contours. Making the guest list, finding the best suppliers and even setting the right music for the party are of utmost importance. The problem is that being responsible for all of this tends to cause a lot of stress. And when planning a wedding, such stress is usually multiplied by ten, in view of being one of the most important days in the lives of those involved.

A reader who is getting married soon sent a message to awesome.club looking for help. She doesn’t know if she should listen to her own intuition or the groom’s family. In this article, we intend to show our support and give some advice that can guide the bride when making the final decision.

Thank you for your message, Emilia! We are very happy that you got in touch with us. Our team from awesome.club met to talk about how the conflict could be resolved in the best possible way, and below you can see our notes.

Wanting to honor your parents’ disability on your wedding day is a beautiful gesture, as it shows how much you love them. We cannot forget that the date will be special for both you and your partner. As a couple, you should be responsible for defining how the ceremony will take place.🇧🇷 However, getting advice from others can also be beneficial to the success of the event.

Take into account the possible conditions of people. Sometimes, when we really like an idea, we don’t stop to think about how it might affect the other person. In some countries, one in four adults live with a disability, and an environment with people stumbling and bumping into each other may not be ideal for guests who are deaf, elderly, wheelchair users, children and even their parents. There is a chance that everything will end in a tragic accident.

Try to have a heart-to-heart with your fiance’s parents.🇧🇷 When they see that you really want to honor your parents at your wedding, they might try to help by suggesting other ways to do it. It’s possible that your in-laws have original ideas, which could even strengthen your bond with them.

You can find a middle ground. Thinking of other ways to honor your parents might help you find a way to include not only them, but the other guests as well. For example, preparing a moment with the lights off, suggesting that everyone dress in a fun way without having to turn off the lights, etc.

If you really want to have a wedding ceremony in the dark, take precautions.🇧🇷 You don’t want to see accidents happen on such an important day. Counting on the presence of professionals and a team for medical care can minimize the consequences if something unwanted occurs. We hope you have the wedding of your dreams and that everything goes perfectly for you and your future husband.

In your opinion, what is the correct attitude in this case? Do you think it’s possible to find a middle ground? If you have any more advice for Emília, leave your comment! He can also help other people who are going through something similar.