“My ex blocks and unblocks me”: 6 reasons to avoid confusion

Breakups are often painful and take a long time to heal.

During this process it is normal for both to distance themselves and cut off communication.

But there are also former couples who continue to speak after the separation.

They seek to know how you are or simply want to continue having ties with you.

The problem is that this type of communication can be very confusing and difficult.

Especially if your ex doesn’t behave the same way towards you every time you talk.

Let me guess… He talks to you like nothing and then disappears?

Does he want to hear from you, but then you realize that he has blocked you? Why does she do it?

These unknowns are as natural as heartbreaking, I know.

But being clear about why he blocks and unblocks you can help you move forward.

Here I will share 6 reasons for you to find out and what to do about it.

Why does he talk to me and disappear?

Being in contact with your ex can generate many mixed emotions.

And trying to understand what he wants to tell you with his attitudes is even more difficult.

That your ex blocks or unblocks you is not exactly a case of ghosting.

But it is known that these attitudes come hand in hand with this behavior.

Ghosting is a way of disappearing from a link in digital media.

One day they are in contact, and the next, they stop talking to you directly or block you.

Of course, these cases occur with or without explanation, but they are always hurtful.

Since the change in behavior is sudden and confusing.

In an article in the newspaper El Tiempo, expert psychologists assure that,

«This type of situation in digital environments is generated by insecurities, by behaviors of others that do not produce trust or because relationships have not been properly consolidated.»

In other words, their behavior is associated with their emotions.

And those emotions are linked to you, your environment and your way of acting.

Whether it’s confusion, jealousy, anger, or anguish, it’s clear that he’s trying to give you a message.

Undoubtedly, his way of acting wants to tell you something, but what exactly?

Let’s look at the reasons why your guy is playing the blocking game with you.

6 reasons why it blocks and unblocks you

1) He is confused

Depending on how your separation has been, you may still have doubts about it.

If he hasn’t been able to get over you yet, he’s probably very confused.

He is probably wondering if he should talk to you or not.

Or if he should suggest you resume the relationship.

And there will be days when he desperately needs to see you or write to you.

If so, he may be trying to apply self-control.

And in these moments of weakness for talking to you, I blocked you to contain myself.

But surely there will be days when you feel stronger than others.

And in those days of extreme weakness, that is, of missing you, I wrote to you.

This situation usually occurs when the other is the “abandoned.”

Or when at the time of separation, it was not clear what happened.

Do you think this situation could be your case?

2) Jealousy

The psychologist Fredy Romero Guzmán explains that jealousy also plays a role.

Since they generate a stimulus that affects the behavior of any person.

Therefore, they can have a positive or negative effect on a relationship.

But how much it affects each will depend on their level of maturity.

In the El Tiempo article, Romero Guzmán explains that,

«Jealousy is there without or with social networks because human beings have insecurities. This insecurity leads me precisely to have cognitive and behavioral responses to think: it will be that he is being unfaithful to me or it will be that he no longer loves me, which triggers behaviors such as reviewing or searching on social networks.»

With this in mind, you should ask yourself:

Have you uploaded pictures of yourself at an event that might make you think you’re with someone else?

Or simply, that you are having a great time, while he still suffers for you.

If so, be careful.

Despite the fact that they are separated, it is likely that there are still feelings.

Cutting a relationship is not an easy task; it takes time.

Jealousy usually appears when one of the two remakes his life before the other.

This feeling can generate immediate rejection and even anger.

Which, in an act of anger or self-protection, can trigger a block.

Either because he doesn’t want to talk to you anymore because he feels hurt or humiliated.

Or because he doesn’t want to be tempted to tell you how he really feels about it.

Surely, you must be repressing questions to ask yourself this style:

How is it possible that you are already dating someone else?
Who is that boy who poses with you hugging you?

If you think that this could be the situation that makes him block you, be prudent.

Of course you have the right to rebuild your life.

Although, you must be careful and sensitive about the material you share on networks.

Remember that this person may still be trying to forget you.

3) He is playing with you: he wants you to look for him

Yes, men are strategists.

Sometimes their pride is so great that it does not allow them to take the first step.

If your man is like this, he may be trying to get you to contact him.

Surely, he wants to know if you check his social networks or profile, for example.

Or if you are aware of his life or not, that is, if you are still interested.

If the separation is recent, evaluate if you really want to get back in touch.

There are times when playing an innocent game can end up hurting both of you more.

If you think he has unlocked you to look for him and you are ready for this, write to him.

If your only alternative is a message, keep in mind that it can go wrong.

Although it may be worth the risk.

Only then can you understand if he is doing it because he misses you or you have imagined it.

4) He wants you to know that he is not interested in you

Another way to play with you. The irony of “I’m not interested in you and I’ll block you.”

Why do I say irony? Because by wanting to reject you, he is proving the opposite.

He wants to know how you will react to his constant blocking.

He’s showing you that you can’t access him if he doesn’t want it.

We could say that it is a position of power, right? So be careful.

If you go along with this whim, it’s likely that he just wants to annoy you or make you angry.

It’s clear he’s still into you, but there’s no guarantee it’s “love.”

Since why would I enjoy doing this to you on purpose?

5) It is difficult for him to get you out of his life

This does not mean that you are confused and want to go back.

It is normal in couples who broke up after being together for a long time.

Or, couples who lived together or shared a lot of time together from day to day.

I may miss your company and cannot easily erase you.

That is, he needs to know about you, because you are still part of him.

Although it does not mean that he is still in love, it may be an opportunity.

So when he talks to you, pay attention to how he does it:

Does he care about you and what happens to you?

Or do you just want to talk about how bad you are because of the separation?

The trick is to understand what is behind their conversation.

If he wants to hear from you, chances are he still has feelings.

If he just wants to talk and share his misfortune, he may miss your presence.

It is possible that you are also thinking that getting back with your ex is a good idea. In this case, the most important thing is that they do not repeat the same mistakes and repeat the same routine. That can only end as it began. Evil.

The only option is to make both of them forget everything bad about the relationship and leave it behind. May he long for the good things they shared.

There is a new method created by Samantha Sanders, a relationship coach, where she teaches you to enter your ex’s subconscious to make him accept his mistakes.

Once you apply it, you’ll get him to stop sending you mixed signals and come back knowing he can’t let you go anymore.

If you want to attract him back and ignite the spark that used to be between you, watch this video to learn the secrets and techniques that will make him come back.

What you will achieve will not be repeating the same relationship they had, but creating a new, much stronger and deeper bond.

Here is the link to the video once again.

6) He’s tired of you

Do you follow him on social networks and write to him by all means constantly?

He may have gotten tired of talking to you and wants you to know it.

Perhaps he has asked you for distance and notices that you have not respected him.

By blocking you, he means that he has reached his tolerance limit.

He wants you to respect his decision, there is no going back to the separation.

What to do if your ex blocks and unblocks you?

Don’t show that you know

If you have a fit of indignation after realizing you’ve been blocked, don’t say so.

Don’t even think about mentioning it to him through any other means of communication.

And much less, post hints on social networks or put messages as a profile.

Trust me, those strategies always have the opposite effect: distance.

If you really want him to unblock you, give him his space and get on with your life.

Surely your attitude will generate intrigue and come back to ask you “how are you?”

Moderate, don’t look for it immediately

I know it’s the first thing you’ll want to do, but believe me, you have to moderate yourself.

Writing to him through another means after he has blocked you is not a good idea.

It will only show how aware you are of him and that you still care.

And while by doing this, it’s clear that you want him to know, it’s not the best way.

Remember that it is always better to distance yourself from the circumstances before acting.

Pressing will only reinforce their choice to have you blocked.

Show him that you don’t care about his actions.

Perhaps he is the one who returns alone, and reconsiders the situation.

Then what do I do?

Let me ask you a question:

Do you really want to be with someone who can’t figure out what they want?

Don’t you think it’s worth trying new things?

Rather, don’t you think you deserve to be with someone who really chooses you?

Each break is different, but something is clear, if they have come to it, it was for a reason.

I invite you to reflect on what separated you and evaluate it.

Continuing to text your ex will only make the breakup harder to get over.

Sometimes, it is better to cut the ties with someone definitively in order to rebuild your life.

Cheer up, I assure you that new experiences are waiting for you. Will you miss them?

Another option is to drive him crazy

If you are convinced that breaking up was a mistake and that you really should be together. I have a good new for you.

Relationship coach Samantha Sanderson has created a method through which she helps women get their ex-partners back.

This method makes your Ex think of you and be convinced that YOU are the woman to whom he belongs.

If you apply his techniques correctly, you can forget about blocking and unblocking, he will simply want to be with you and stop playing games.

Here is the LINK to a short presentation of this method that will surprise you.