My efforts do not deserve your disqualifications

There are many types of disqualifications, but if there is one phrase that completely summarizes what disqualification itself is, it is “I am better than you.” No matter how hard you try, no matter how good you are at your job, at what you do, There will always be that person who tells you that you really aren’t that good and that your efforts won’t reach him or the sole of his shoe.

Disqualifications can be subtle or come directly. Be that as it may, its main objective is to take something, a positive characteristic, and reduce it to something neutral or something negative.

Why are you disqualifying me?

When someone keeps disqualifying us, we may think that they are right. and that in truth we are not as good as we may be considering ourselves.

Nothing is further from reality. The person who disqualifies others is afraid, an atrocious fear and that is why he attacks you. that way. This fear comes hand in hand with multiple insecurities that cause the thought of “if you see yourself even smaller, I will be bigger.”

Don’t believe the words of a disqualifier

You must think that if they try to disqualify you, it is because they see you as a rival. You are no less than him! Quite the opposite. You are very superior and that is why he wants to put you down. Never believe what a disqualifier tells you, more than anything because he will try in every possible way to bring your self-esteem to the ground.

Therefore, you should think that the disqualifier is actually stating what you already know. You are better than him, or at least you have some quality that he envies. For this reason, Try to put yourself down because only then can he feel good and superior.. Don’t all insecure and afraid people do this, even abusers?

Change your vision, because not everyone who insults you or devalues ​​your achievements does so because they think, precisely, that you are worthless. On the contrary, you are worth a lot, you are worth a lot! Change the way you see things and you will overcome any comments that are intended to hurt you.

Today I will face your disqualifications

Taking this into account, it is time to know how these disqualifications are reaching us. Because we may learn to deal with one of them, but what about the others?

People who try to put you down have many cards to play, between them they play the game so that if one fails they can immediately put another one into play. In what ways am I being disqualified? What should I pay attention to? Keep this in mind…

They devalue your achievements, although not directly. A single phrase like “you got the job, but let’s see if you can keep it” will fill you with doubts and insecurities, which is what the disqualifier wants!They send messages with double meanings that express one thing, but have a truly negative undertone, for example “I’m not saying it because I want to make you feel bad…” If they can, they steal your merits, making you see that you got that job thanks to someone, or that you now have work because there is too much.They use their gesture language to contradict what they are sayingThat is to say, they can say something positive but expressions of doubt or “oh, what are you getting into” appear on their face. They do not give their approval to anything, that is why each sentence will always be accompanied by a “but” that will raise doubts. all of the above, for example “you’re handsome… but you’re not my type.” They falsely accuse you in order to dominate you and manipulate you as they please or, simply, disqualify you in front of others and “leave you in a bad place.”

Value yourself and don’t let them disqualify you

If you have encountered a person who identifies with the above, you are undoubtedly facing a person who is afraid, insecurities, and who therefore seeks to humiliate and disqualify others.

Now that you know how a disqualifying person can attack you, it is time to fight back, knowing exactly what you are and ignoring words that want to damage your self-esteem.

You must know your worth and not allow any words spoken with malice and unhealthy pretensions to disqualify what you have achieved with so much effort.

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