Liquid love or the fragility of bonds

You may have already heard of liquid love, an interesting concept stated by sociologist Zygmunt Bauman. In this poetic but disconsolate image, a reality is contained that seems to be quite common today: the fragility of the bond.

An idea associated with the essence that seems to be lived in this society where apparently the fleeting is perhaps valued on too many occasions, the punctual consumerism that gives satisfaction of a momentary need and which is then discarded. Although we must also make an interesting point.

We are not only talking about interpersonal relationships, but also the relationship we establish with ourselves, or what Bauman himself calls “the liquidity of self-love.”

Are you aware, for example, that to love another person in a mature way, you must start by loving yourself? That’s how it is, This is a constant problem in our society., that lack of self-esteem and self-worth in which we end up losing others by not starting with ourselves. For “solidifying self-love.”

Let’s talk about it today, let’s delve into this interesting concept of liquid love. A type of love that is increasingly present in our society and that we have to be aware of.

Liquid love and individuality

Sometimes, Establishing a strong and committed bond is not easy for many people.. Behind this, hides a sense of responsibility and personal transcendence that perhaps they are not willing to assume. It is even possible that there is a fear factor and even personal immaturity, where it is not possible to conceive of an authentic solid, stable relationship with a project for the future.

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Bauman himself explains to us that Many relationships today are “connections” rather than “relationships.”. We are no longer talking only about the primacy of new technologies and social networks, those that unite us with multiple people at the time we choose.

This concept goes a little further. Individualism seeks only to satisfy specific needs with a beginning and an end.hence the idea of liquid love, emotions that cannot be retained and that fleetingly escape from the hands until they disappear.

It is something that without a doubt sounds disconsolate, we live in a dynamic world where The real sometimes combines with the virtuala liquid modernity where many things seem to escape our hands.

We establish unstable relationships because our society seems to praise more flexible human relationships. And no, we are not just talking about relationships, let’s also think about the education of the little ones.

We offer them numerous toys, technologies, we establish a blackmail game where upon passing an exam we reward them with a new gift. We let them fall almost unintentionally into a consumer society with few values, creating individuals who in turn become tyrants, who do not recognize where the limits are and who, in some way, also end up becoming liquid…

Their friendships are born on social networks, and to end one of them when they are not interested, they only have to use the “block or report” button for said person.

The importance of self-love to combat liquid love

People are not consumer goods, nor do we have planned obsolescence like any appliance. We think, feel and love. But we must always start with ourselves, seeing ourselves as people worthy of being loved.