Instead of finding yourself, dare to reinvent yourself every day

Instead of going far away to find yourself, stay close and reinvent yourself. The person you are looking for is already within you and, most importantly, you can allow him to emerge in his best version, the one you choose. To do this you just have to get rid of attachments, fears and conventions and start little by little a journey of self-discovery, challenges and transformations.

Few topics within the field of personal growth are as prominent as self-knowledge and personal fulfillment. Hence, most of us are more than familiar with the idea that one of our vital purposes should be, neither more nor less, than to know who we really are.. Now, taking this idea literally can lead us to some contradiction.

For a start, people are not stable entities. As living beings, we are constantly changing and all progress or variation is intended to promote adaptation and learning. Thus, and as we well know, the person we were ten years ago is not the same person who leaves her house every day to face the world, to make it her own, enjoy it and give it meaning.

Therefore, you do not need a trip to Tibet to find yourself. Each of us finds ourselves daily in every little thing we do, in every achievement, in every mistake, in every passion and learning assumed. Now, to achieve authentic well-being and self-realization, you have to reinvent yourself from time to time. Only in this way can our best version be revealed, the one that is in tune with desires, dreams and needs.

Finding yourself is fine, but dare to take it a step further

Instead of asking yourself who you are, make a slight variation: ask yourself what you want from yourself. Doing so will allow you to clarify purposes to gain momentum and become stronger. In some ways, much of self-help psychology has reminded us of the importance of finding ourselves overlooking one small aspect: our self is changeable and forced to rebuild itself from time to time.

Every experience, every decision made, person we meet, book read, hobby discovered, country visited, etc., changes us.. Every experience leaves its mark on us. Therefore, there is no need for you to go out and find yourself, you are already in everything you touch, see and feel. However, you have an even more important responsibility to yourself: to achieve personal fulfillment.

To make it, All of us are forced to modify parts of our identities as we move through our life cycle. By doing so, we not only mature, but we allow ourselves to gain resilience, self-esteem, and happiness. What’s more, no matter how old we are, encouraging changes and reinventing ourselves is an exercise to practice when we believe it is necessary.

Reinventing yourself, a secret to eternal youth according to a study

A few years ago, Dr. Ravenna Helson, professor of psychology at the University of California at Berkeley, published one of the most valued works on the creative personality. The so-called ‘Mills Study’ followed 120 women over 30 years.

The objective was to analyze what personality changes were evident over 3 decades.. The data was very revealing. It could be seen that those women who were able to reinvent themselves (take on new goals, start new activities, etc.) showed higher rates of well-being and health. This group achieved, in his own words, ‘become the people they had always wanted’.

Likewise, the ‘Mills Study’ showed that the age cohort where older people were evident Personality changes and personal satisfaction were those between 50 and 65 years of age.

Don’t worry about finding yourself, look for your best version

Viktor Frankl said that Life is not made unbearable by circumstances, but by lack of meaning and purpose. This is the real secret to finding happiness and personal fulfillment: having goals, objectives, dreams, desires…

Life is movement and whether we want it or not, It is the changes that help us survive better so that everything continues to make sense. We make these variations in order to leave behind what is no longer useful, what no longer suits us, what smells like stagnant time and takes away our wings. A change in time, a fabulous reinvention, sometimes even allows us to breathe better.

However, there is one aspect that we must be clear about. The task of reinventing oneself is not easy, it requires a certain challenge and great doses of courage. What’s more, something that Master Eckhart, a well-known philosopher and theologian of the 14th century, told us is that people cling too much to what we are or believe we are. In liberation lies plenitude, in leaving aside materialisms, fears and obsessions.

Reinvention is an act of freedom, it is the expression of one’s own identity, allowing us to go beyond the comfort zone to fulfill ourselves, to achieve well-being. Ask yourself who you want to be and work on that idea, on that purpose.

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