I know that sometimes I can’t do everything and that’s okay.

Sometimes I can’t do everything, sometimes I can’t do it, I don’t get there, I don’t have enough hands, eyes and time for everyone and everything…. but nothing happens. It doesn’t really matter, because knowing where my limits are and where my desires end is good and healthy. Understanding that I also need myself and that I have the right to say “I can’t take it anymore” responds to the need not to lose my breath.

It may seem ironic, but If there is a state that many of us have reached, it is “feeling tired of being tired.” It is an overwhelming life experience, there is no doubt, because not only are we captive to a body that feels exhausted, but also in our mind two nervous voices shout in unison. The first does nothing more than repeat that “don’t stop now, you have a lot of things to do”, while the other insists in the form of a litany “But I don’t give any more of myself.”

In these situations where I can’t do everything, there is no point in singing the song. “Let It Go” from Frozen, nor paint mandalas, nor take an afternoon off, nor disconnect from everything for a few hours imagining that we are the only inhabitants of the Earth, that we are alone and that nothing and no one requires our immediate attention. They are temporary plasters for a deeper wound, anesthetics that stop the bleeding… but hardly scarring that heal or repair.

Because believe it or not, There is fatigue that reflects underlying problems, very debilitating stress and anxiety processes. Places where we encounter the arid impossibility of thinking clearly, of combining adequate strategies to face a state of mind that can extinguish our vitality and make us fall ill.

I feel “tired of being tired”, exhausted of not being able to handle my responsibilities.

To understand the complexity of these situations we will give you a simple example to reflect on. Carolina works every day from 9 to 5 in the afternoon. When he finishes his workday he takes care of his mother with Alzheimer’s. Every month she saves a part of her salary to be able to pay for a master’s degree for her little sister, something that her husband, currently unemployed, does not know. Carolina wants the best for everyone, she wants to take good care of her mother, offer a good future to her sister and give an image of normality to her partner.

The level of physical and mental exhaustion that our protagonist has gradually reached is extreme.. There are days when he considers other options, perhaps paying someone to help him with his mother, but he knows that would mean not being able to save for his sister’s studies.

That’s when we become immobilized, when our brain chemistry changes. and the mind becomes a labyrinth with no exit where we are trapped in the “No matter what you do, everything is going to go wrong.” The heart races, hormones lose their balance and the demon of fear dominates us.

That internal cyclone that destroys everything plunges our mind and body into such an intense state of over-activation that fatigue settles in every atom, in every fiber, in every tendon and in every blink… Carolina at that moment thinks I can’t handle everything and that paralyzes her.

Sometimes I can’t do everything, but NOTHING will happen

“I have so many things to do that I don’t know where to start, but if I don’t start now, it will be worse later.” “My boss is going to fire me if I don’t finish this.” “My parents are going to be disappointed if I don’t go this afternoon”… If we think about this and other phrases that line our language, we will realize that we live rooted in the inflection of the eternal conditional: If I don’t do this it is possible that…

Living based on assumptions almost always associated with the catastrophic exhausts the mind and annihilates the spirit, simple as that. Firmly assuming that in this life you cannot do everything is a principle of health, of emotional hygiene, because those who carry everything on their back sooner or later end up without strength. Therefore, we suggest that you reflect for a moment on the following dimensions, we are sure that they will help you.

Tired of being tired? It’s time to change focus

Although it is hard to admit it, sometimes, we are the ones who fall into our own trap. Telling ourselves that “we can do everything” is a very dangerous bias., an error to be corrected appropriately by integrating more integrative, more self-respectful thought patterns. These would be some of them:

Every day when you wake up, remember this simple phrase: “I am doing the best I can at this time given the resources I have and the state I am in.”Avoid those traps we often fall into with our language or thinking. Instead of “not good enough, I have to work harder to reach everyone,” replace it with “I am going to give my best every day and every moment, but without neglecting myself.”When you feel exhausted, when you notice that your body is not giving enough of itself… despite having rested enough, analyze your thoughts. Sometimes, What wears you out the most is your own discouragement, ruminating thoughts, he “I’m not going to make it”, the “whatever I do is of no use”.

Last but not least, it is essential that you take care of and attend to your circadian rhythms and routines. Having rest times, having a few hours of the day for yourself, does not in any way mean that you perform less or that you fail someone: it is health, it is balance and it is well-being.

In addition, Having the courage to say out loud that you have limits, that you can’t take it anymore or that you refuse to take on more responsibilities, won’t mean any catastrophe either.the world will not end, the stars will not fall from the sky, nor will the flowers wither…

If you try it, if you dare to put it into practice, you will discover that NOTHING will happen… We have all at some point thought about that “I can’t do everything”. But not being able to handle everything can be dealt with by setting healthy limits.

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