He who only looks for you when he needs you does not deserve you.

When we are not valued as we should, we have to rethink our relationships and make ourselves our priority.

He who looks for you only when he needs you, does not deserve to find you. He does not deserve to be called a friend, nor does your attention, who, no matter how much time passes and how many circumstances vary, does not change his selfish and interested attitude.

It does not mean that he is a bad person, but simply that your relationship is not healthy, it does not fit. This should not make us feel bad, but we should realize that it is part of life, because sometimes you win and other times you learn.

Links are forged and strengthened through reciprocity, interaction and exchange. Because in reality, the one who is by our side (emotionally) at some point is the one who looks for us with great interest when we need it and when he needs us.

When a relationship consists of giving and giving, without receiving anything in return, it ultimately ends up failing in its principles and turning a positive feeling into a disadvantageous sensation.

Indifference is the best example of “no love”

Indifference is the best example of “not love.” That is why we should not treat those people who treat us as an option as a priority. More than anything because we must keep the priority in our life towards ourselves if we want to balance the scales.

Because inattention, indifference and selfishness end up showing themselves in the damage that being in front of the mirror does to us, in the fact that we do not understand that we deserve love and in how we kill the affection we have for ourselves and the love we have for others.

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“You don’t deserve someone who, with their indifference, makes you feel invisible and absent. You deserve someone who, with his attention, makes you feel important and present.

You don’t deserve someone who excites you with what they say and then disappoints you with what they do. Yes, you deserve the one who says less, but he does more.

You don’t deserve someone who only looks for you when you need you, but someone who is always by your side when they know you need them. “You don’t deserve the one who makes you sad and cry, but the one who makes you happy and makes you smile.”

When hope is the last thing you lose

Sometimes it hurts us that hope is the last thing to be lost, since we wait with great temperance for the disaster to occur. “immediate miracle” that selfishness turns into gratitude and interest in sharing support and moments.

These desires have a certain degree of rigidity and, when we choose to distance ourselves from them because they do not bring us anything, then we think “what if I am wrong”, “what if it really is not selfishness”.

However, Often the only thing we do is mortgage our well-being and our emotions to the wills of others. (Who has not stopped to think that on some occasion they have covered their eyes in the face of evidence and have not wanted to listen to their emotional needs?).

Many times we ruin our present expecting changes in our relationshipschanges that will never come if we do nothing to improve the situation, or if we do not try to balance the balance in our relationships.

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Many times the solution is to talk calmly with these people so that they realize the inequality that the relationships become. However, other more shameless ones simply hide an interest that does not even try to hide.

In any case, we must seek a balance that is healthy for both parties. If this does not arrive, then we should choose to be our priority, take care of ourselves and start reading a script in which we are the protagonists.