How to get over a breakup

Parting with your loved one can be extremely painful, especially if the decision was not yours to make. But if we don’t move forward, we risk getting stuck in pain. On the other hand, to really overcome it is necessary to respect the internal process of each one and the personal moments of suffering. How is all this achieved?

At the awesome.club We created this post to help you get over a breakup.

To begin with, it’s important that you accept sadness and pain. This will hurt, but it doesn’t mean or imply going into pain and not getting out, of course not!

Accepting pain is the first step to overcoming it. We feel love, joy, sadness… All feelings must flow freely through our mind and heart, and we must not repress them. Otherwise, they will forever settle in us.

Let your pain flow so that sooner or later it goes away.

The idea of ​​loneliness scares. When we are alone, we believe that we will be alone forever, even if rationally we know that this is not true.

Take advantage of this momentary solitude and do things you enjoy: going shopping, reading or watching movies all day, going to a spa. Be well with you.

Make space in your life for loneliness. Time helps to healto see things from a distance and to recognize oneself without the gaze of the other.

After a breakup it’s easy to think: “What did I do wrong?”.

The answer is: probably nothing🇧🇷 There are times when love simply ends, or maybe the other person wants different things, or needs to be alone. It’s not about heroes and villains: are human beings with complex feelings.

The end of a relationship may not be anyone’s fault. Sometimes it happens and that’s it. So don’t mistreat yourself. You do not do anything wrong.

If the break proposal is final, resist the temptation to try to go back🇧🇷 Time will tell if the relationship can be resumed or not. Take time to think, not just two days.

The same goes for the chase: in the age when everyone has social networks, it is very difficult not to enter the other person’s profiles to see what they are doing: if they are sad, if they go out with their friends, if they see someone else. Doing this once may reassure us, but permanently it will only fuel our obsession.

And obsession won’t allow you to move on.

If time passes, and the pain from the breakup does not go away, do not hesitate to ask a psychologist for help.

Don’t be ashamed or afraid: they are there to help people who have an emotional problem and cannot resolve it on their own. You won’t be the first or the last in the world to ask for psychological help.

Furthermore, talking about your feelings with someone will help get them out of you.

The advantage of accepting singleness is that you acquire freedom. We are not just referring to not being with someone and therefore not having commitments.

We are referring to freedom that implies acceptance.

Once you accept your new condition, call your friends. Go out with them, have fun, go dancing, to the movies, to parties… Celebrate life!

After being injured, that seems difficult, doesn’t it?

Think you’ve overcome all of the above. You can with that too.

Opening yourself up to the possibility of a new relationship doesn’t mean rushing things or putting yourself in a relationship with the first person you come across. Its about meet peopleso that you also know yourself, to overcome fear and try again🇧🇷