How to forget something that never happened?

You just ended a relationship. He walks into the house and finds pictures of you, letters, some clothes, memories of the two of you all over the house. You can keep it somewhere you can’t see it, or you can throw it all away (hint: throwing it all away gives an incredible sense of relief). Okay, she’s not at your house anymore.

Ah, you delete photos from your cell phone and social media too. Gradually your friends stop talking about the two of you, family and PUF! Now yes, ready. No physical remnants. The memories you are shelving little by little. In a while everything will be resolved and everything will be a vague memory. But what about when we need to erase the traces of something that left no traces, simply because it didn’t exist?

We are used to dealing with real memories and forgetting things and people that have passed through our lives. It’s part. The problem is forgetting memories and events that only happened in our head. That story that started, grew too fast, filled you with expectations, dreams, plans, children’s names and price searches for possible places for your honeymoon. This story is not easy to forget. Because what happens is never perfect. There’s always something wrong or not so good that we can cling to when we need to forget about the good side.

On the trip of our dreams that never happened, no one fights because they missed the entrance to the road, no one gets in a bad mood because the inn’s wi-fi is bad and no one is worried sick thinking if the cats have already destroyed the house.

In the future we never had, she texts you every half hour, says she’s in love after the third date and already wants to do a marathon of Back to the Future, Star Wars, How I Met Your Mother and Friends, mandatory for anyone human with a modicum of civility coursing through his veins.

She sends you notes quoting Goethe, writes you a Neruda poem and dedicates a Beatles song to you. No risk from Wesley Safadão or Caio Fernando Abreu. It’s a lot harder to let go of the memories we could have had than the ones we had. Mainly because in our imagination she would never call Yoda “that backward-talking little green dwarf”. If she called it would be pretty easy to forget, but she doesn’t. Not in our dreams.

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