How to detect a friend who is not one

Friendship can sometimes be “deceptive”, someone we trust may actually be a friend who is not. But how to identify these false friendships?

We see it with an example: many times it is frankly difficult to differentiate an authentic bag from an imitation bag.. They have the same shape, the same color, the same feel, the same stitching, the same measurements, they have even taken care to refine the brand label. But there are small details that reveal them over time.

The imitation bag fades in an unusual way when wet or exposed to the sun, The interior compartments to store your most intimate things become unstitched and cause discomfort, and even the rope you use to hang it on your shoulder is no longer as comfortable as it was at the beginning.

And what are you going to do. We could say that “they gave it to you, but very well.” Even so, you keep carrying it because you feel sorry to throw it away and it’s still “cute.” although you will never take it to an important event again.

The same thing happens with a friend who is not.

They seem perfect for you and your circumstances, but you don’t know why, for a strange reason, over time they cause you more discomfort. and headaches about what is expected from someone with whom you must share interesting conversations. They seem to fade over time.

It’s starting to feel strange not to argue over stupid things., and not feel tension due to certain reactions. It just happens to you with that person and you’ve thought about it for a long time. His behavior leaves something to be desired, but you don’t want to open your eyes completely. Discarding friends through life is not to anyone’s liking.

Here we are going to give you some guidance on fake copies, in the “soul friend version” that may sound familiar to you. Eye! They are very subtle and you may think they are not a big deal, but take them into account before your feelings completely overflow.

How does a friend who is not a friend behave?

No doubt. If your friend exhibits these behaviors, put the bag in the storage room and your number to the “unwanted” contact list. Or format everything if you strictly follow it. A friend who is not, follows these patterns:

1. The speed of proximity

True friendships are built over time and require affection and mutual commitment. When someone wants to become your best friend from one day to the next, you may begin to suspect the sincerity of that new bond you are building.

For example, when someone starts confiding too much, asking you for the same level of openness and trust when you have only known each other for a couple of days, or when they give you unsolicited opinions on topics important to you, without fully knowing the situation in question. the one you are here or you, we are facing a so-called friend who, we don’t know with what intentions, just wants to push the limits of your trust.

2. Your way of communicating

Your friend seems happy to talk to you, yes, but always bad about other people. He leaves no puppet with a head and instead of pouring clouds of cotton out of his mouth he spews mortal poison. Curiously, with that person he criticizes, he seems to get along great when you go out, from time to time he gives him a compliment. Of course, the person in question is ahead.

And he makes off-color comments to you: “mine was better”, “I already did that”, “yeah but I’ve been through that too” “it’s not that big of a deal…” His maturity level is 100 and yours is 0. He says he wants to help you but does few practical things to do so.

3. Your feelings and reactions

That friend who is not, is not sincere with his feelings, That’s why you don’t understand it. It makes a mess, and you more. In the end she seems to adopt a defensive attitude “because she doesn’t understand it.” He is exhausting.

Besides, think that your story is not that big a deal. She says he understands you, although your problems aren’t that big of a deal. You don’t want me to evaluate their degree of importance. You just want to vent.

AND It tells you that you have to be happy and positive, but it doesn’t apply. That is, by not recognizing something that is hurting him, he disguises it as false strength that crumbles as soon as you do something fun. Either he’s out of control, or he’s tired, or the place you’ve taken him to is a pain. Another point to point out is how useless you are when it comes to friendship.

4. His ambivalent way of relating

Gives excessive importance to social relationships, He always wants to help everyone, but when he does he feels overwhelmed. He doesn’t know how to say no, but when it comes to serious things, he seems to hesitate.

A friend who is not a friend tells you that you have many virtues when you are in a low moment, he loves being with you… but Don’t you dare level up in any field. We’ll move on to the demotivating phrases, “that always goes wrong” or “be realistic.” He’s with you through the bad times, but he doesn’t seem to enjoy it when you’re in the good times.

He has no sense of humor, or at least yours.. She loves to laugh and if you tell her something funny she will tell you “well I don’t find it funny.” You don’t know what to talk about anymore.

5. Your life and that of others

Asks you things about your other friends and family, and it seems that with the intention of also judging them. You already refuse that, but he is insistent, he likes to know details that do not concern him.

Besides, repeat the same stories over and over again, as if he lost track of who he has told them or not. And in front of several people you see that he goes so far as to say: “This is a very delicate topic, but don’t say anything, it’s okay?” Of course, he is not a role model for others. If I didn’t tell it, there would be no need to ask others for trust.

He says he is very strong and has been through a lot.but that should not be a reason to disqualify your own concerns, especially when you have heard it in any type of situation, no matter how “light” it may seem to you.

6. He does not show interest in your opinions and ideas

With this type of “friends” there are no debates about politics or religion.. He already has a sentence ready to finish and you will look like the crazy person who brings up tricky topics. You had found that news in the newspaper outrageous, but you end up even more outraged by his attitude.

The end of the relationship

But You have already reached a point where you can’t take it anymore., you tell him that you have to improve the relationship. You are surprised but you are left with the idea of ​​a purpose for improvement. You feel guilty for discussing these problems with someone close to you because you shouldn’t talk behind a friend’s back.

You have arrived late. There are already too many things that don’t add up to you… you pull the thread and BAM! He has made broth of you with friends and acquaintances in the most lowly way. With the most surreal lies. And with the most hurtful mockery. She hasn’t left a shred of your integrity safe.

Although to hurt, little. You don’t even feel sorry. Now this person will be afraid that others will pull the thread and that you will not speak. He shouldn’t worry. With people like this, you don’t have to waste another minute of your time. You have remained in glory and he or she with his or her viperine tongue.

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