How do you know if your partner really cares about you?

Many people have difficulty identifying how their partners feel about them and if they are truly valued. Therefore, below, we show a list of those indicators that denote interest on the part of the other.

The topic of this article may seem naive to you. Who will not know if he is loved or not by his partner? Well, sometimes people are not infallible, sometimes we make mistakes and there are mistakes that hurt more than others. We know.

And it is that There are many men and women who have spent a large part of their time – and their lives – with a partner who, in reality, has never loved them. as they really deserved. Or as they expected. They may have been betrayed. Or that, simply, their respective partners have never believed much in the commitment they had.

It is usually those types of failures that hurt the most. Those that most hurt and emotionally destroy those who have suffered it. Because time, efforts, hopes have been invested, aspects that at a given moment were very important may have even been renounced…

There are people who are afraid of hurting others, that is why they do not say what they really think, want and desire, even if that hurts more than they think.

All for someone who, perhaps, never dared to tell us that he loved us. Or that he simply did not want to commit and give that relationship a future. It is, therefore, essential that we know how to pay attention to the following signs. Dimensions that you probably already know, but that deserve to be taken into account and thought about.

1. Interest in the little things

The interest is not in them simply asking us: did you sleep well? What time do you get back from work? What time will we meet? Someone’s interest is evident in their eyes, gestures and small details. In appreciating that something worries us when we get home, and investigating what motivates this concern.

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Interest in knowing what we think and what we think about certain things. Interest in yesterday, today and tomorrow. In knowing those details of childhood, the insignificant quirks of the now, and interest in what we think about the future.

We will know that we are important to a person when their need to know and their concern is sincere., and we appreciate in their verbal and non-verbal language, some type of empathy and, above all, sincerity. Interest is observed, intuited and felt.

2. The commitment

Commitment is the need to maintain and mature feelings and a relationship.. It has to do with a concern for tomorrow where both individuals remain united in a common project. If there is commitment it is because your partner cares about you.

We may maintain a sincere and rewarding relationship, but if they do not show us perspectives of wanting something more, of maturing said project within the same common horizon, discrepancies will surely begin to arise. And above all, difference in needs.

“Do not promise things that you are not going to keep, the only thing you achieve is destroy the illusion of someone who believes in you.”

-Anonymous-

One will have enough with that weekend getaway, and the other will feel a void at the idea of being able or not to form a home, or a family. We must be careful with false promises, those that put band-aids on the present with castles in the air that little by little crumble. We must be intuitive and pay attention to those details, to the plans that are not fulfilled, to the excuses with which most reproaches are woven.

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3. The need to be together

Could there be anything more basic and simple? Share time, space, moments, opportunities, noises and silences… There, there are also no last-minute excuses that frustrate a meeting, causing them to spend more time away from home than they can justify…

The time spent as a couple must be saturated with complicity and pleasure., for the simple well-being of being with each other. Obviously, we do not have to be “grinded” 24 hours a day, not at all… But to know that we are truly important to someone, we will have to notice that need to look for moments to be with us, and above all, that time shared is of quality.

4. Active listening

How do you know if your partner cares about you? When you talk to her you feel that her entire being is focused on what you are saying. Obviously, this can’t happen every time. Even so, when there is a topic that worries you or that makes you happy, you feel that he is there, listens to you and remembers what you have said.

5. Respect

If your partner cares about you, he or she will respect you in every way: as a person, as a professional; Respect your ideas and opinions, even if you don’t share them and may not agree with you.

6. Support and encourage the other person

A person who cares about you will support you in your projects and dreams. In addition, he will know how to give you time when you want to spend time with your friends. They will also maintain their own friendships and interests instead of looking to you to entertain them or fulfill all their social needs.

7. Availability

When your partner cares about you, he or she will want to spend time with you.. You are his priority and he shows that with actions, not just expressed in words. It’s there every time you need it, every time you need a shoulder to cry on or someone to laugh with.

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8. Defend the other person

If your partner cares about you, he or she will defend you when criticized or when someone attacks you.. If, on the other hand, she is the first to criticize or attack you, instead of defending you, it is clear that things are not going well and that she does not care enough about you.

9. Inclusion

If he includes you in his plans, it is because your partner cares about you. That he or she makes you a participant in his or her hobbies, for example, is a clear sign that you are not just any person in his or her life and that you are worth it to him or her. Obviously, you must also understand that sometimes he or she will want space from her.

10. The importance of communication

How is your communication with your partner? Is there complicity and empathy? A sincere listening? Does he remember your words, your ideas and your comments? It is essential that we attend to these dialogues, noticing the interest and that look in which we see ourselves reflected.

There where our words can have the power to hurt or offer happiness. What we will never perceive is indifference. Above all indifference. That fog where feelings unravel and where our phrases no longer have the effect of yesteryear to produce emotions in the couple.

If so, it would be time to make decisions. Remember to protect your self-esteem and avoid maintaining a situation that, far from giving us hope, can cause even more pain…
Image courtesy Benjamin Lacombe.