Healing ritual so that your family past stops conditioning your life

From the moment of our conception, we are like a thread between others threads that are part of a vital tissue. In fact, Aboriginal cultures around the world have rituals to heal wounds that are repeated in the fabric of family relationships through the connection with our ancestors.

In this article we will see how we are all connected and how we receive multiple influences in our lives, not only from our closest relatives, but also from those who in turn influenced them. We will also see how we can break with that influence when it is negative and make peace with our past in a deep and constructive way. Some rituals, such as the visualization that you will find below, can be of great help on this path.

we are all connected

According to the Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh, the human being is an “inter-being”that is, it coexists and is intimately interrelated not only with other humans, but also with animals, with nature and with inanimate things.

We are all linked to everything: without the cloud and the rain there would be no trees, but without the light nothing would grow either… or without the nutrition of the earth. Also present are the lumberjack who cut down the tree, and his parents, and all the people who participated in creating the website for this magazine and in this article that is now on your screen. I am also part of it, who is writing now, and you, who are reading: we are all intertwined.

Current individualism is not only counterproductive for this reason, but it is also absurd: we cannot exist without co-exist with others, with everything that surrounds us. Let us remember that, as the African proverb says: «It takes a whole town to raise a child».

destructive patterns in the family that come from several generations

It was precisely our social ability that favored the survival of Homo sapiens, as the historian Yuval Noah Harari explains in his book sapiens. We wouldn’t have gotten anywhere if we hadn’t learned to collaborate or develop a sense of belonging.

Since we are born we are, as we have seen, one thread among others threads that are part of a vital tissue.

Unlike what happens in aboriginal cultures, in Western culture it is very uncommon to practice reverence to the ancestors. However, numerous psychological investigations affirm that transgenerational traumas play an important role in the patterns of aggression or addictions in the family.

Although there are modern approaches such as those family constellationswhich help to integrate and heal relationships, the slow progress of ancestor reverence not only frees us from having to carry an intergenerational weight of life, but also helps us to recognize the gifts and inspirations we have inheritedand that affect our physical, psychological and spiritual state.

What he teaches us power of ancestral heritagewhich we saw for example in the movie Coconutfrom Pixar, is that living and dead influence each other. What would happen if you discovered that there is a destructive pattern in your family that has been repeated for more than ten generations? What if you had the chance to heal him at last?

What is ancestral healing?

Although it is scientifically impossible to verify what happens after death, the ancient healing gives us through their practices the opportunity to make peace with ourselves –and with our ancestors– on a deep and vital level.

These practices teach us that if the direct family is a source of suffering, it is generally because they did not receive anything better either. The simple fact of appreciate the gift of lifeas Bert Hellinger, creator of family constellations, proposes, is already a healer for everyone.

The ancestor reverence rituals They are also connected with the recognition of mother earth and nature. We need these roots to drink from our origins and, at the same time, learn to fly.

The great gift is to discover that, On the path of life, no one is alone. We are all connected and are part of a long history that needs to be understood and sometimes healed.

Ritual to receive the strength of the ancestors

This ritual can help you reconnect with those ancestors who love you well and receive all their energy.

Connect with your breath and with your body: in a sitting position, connect with your body sensations. Notice your weight, feel how you are, look around you. Do a few cycles of breathing slowly and deeply.Feel the circle of fire around you: Visualize that a circle of fire burns around you that cleanses your space and offers you protection. Get your heat and feel your connection to the earth.Open your inner circle to those who love you well: before you, a fire burns in the center of the circle. Specifically invite your healthy ancestors, in his most compassionate and benevolent state. Only they can enter your circle.Be thankful for the meeting, let go and trust: note again the weight of the body, your skin. A light surrounds you and cleans what does not belong to you. Open your eyes: only benevolent energies fit in your intimate space.