“He likes me but he is not over his ex” 7 things that nobody tells you

It can be very exciting to meet someone new and feel like they like you and like you.

There is something very exciting about the early stages of seduction. It is a moment of incredible experiences and sensations.

From getting butterflies in your stomach every time you see him, to the racing heart with the first kiss and that feeling of happiness when you spend time together.

You know that he likes you and that you like him. There is potential for this relationship to go somewhere.

But before you can get fully involved in this new adventure, you discover that he still has feelings for his ex.

If you’re like me, this situation could get you so demotivated that you’re pulling away from this special guy.

It is a complicated situation in which nobody wants to find themselves.

On the one hand, you love him and you feel like you have a lot in common.

And for another, you may not be emotionally ready for a new relationship and may never even get over your ex.

And the last thing you want is to waste time trying to see where it goes.

So what should you do?

This is a question that many of us have asked ourselves. You are not the only one in this situation, which is why we have decided to write this article with 7 tips to help you decide what to do next.

He likes me but he is not over his ex – 7 tips if this is your case

In the first place, the decision of whether or not to risk staying with this boy is completely up to you.

The truth is that no one else knows your or his situation and can offer an opinion on it (even if they want to). You can discuss it with your friends to get visions of him, but in the end you must trust what your heart tells you. You will always be the one who knows what is best for you.

And to help you out, there are some questions you can ask yourself about this guy’s previous relationship and his feelings for his ex before making a decision.

Consider it a bit of market research to determine exactly what you will get out of this relationship.

1) Watch how he talks about his ex

It’s one thing for your guy to mention his ex in passing, but it’s quite another if he loses his gaze while talking about her.

Words have a lot of power and emotion and you can tell a lot about how someone is feeling through them. And not only that, body language can give you much more information about what the other is feeling. Both for you and for his ex-girlfriend.

If he is sad that the relationship ended, but accepts that it is over, it means that there is still an opportunity to help him.

Relationships take a great emotional toll on us, and it can take a while to get over this.

Many emotions need to be processed and overcome to come out on the other side, so you may just need one shot and some time to do this.

Do you think this is a man who wants to work on his emotions to move forward and grow as a person, or is he simply trapped and too obsessed with the past?

2) Think about how fast your relationship is going

It’s hard not to get sucked into the romance of a fast-paced relationship.

Let’s face it, all of us girls want to let ourselves go. It’s exciting, and brimming with passion. What could be better?

The truth is, the relationships that flare up at full speed are also the ones that tend to burn out the quickest.

If this guy isn’t over his ex, then he might be looking for a whirlwind romance that will distract him from his true feelings.

This is not a guy looking to fall in love, nor someone looking for a serious commitment.

He’s probably just a man trying to escape his past.

But, we know how this story ends. The past always catches up with you. And when he does, this guy will break down as he processes all these emotions that he’s been trying to bury with you.

That is why it is important that you proceed calmly. Do not rush into anything or start making big plans. Give yourself enough time to figure out if he’s serious about you or if you’re just a girl to grieve.

You need time to get to know each other and see if there is any feeling growing within you. This also gives him time to work out his feelings for his ex and then put them aside to really get involved in a relationship with you.

3) Who left whom?

You may not think this is an important question, but it’s definitely one you need to know the answer to.

If he dumped her, then you know that he can more than likely get over her, even if it takes time.

He’s still working through those feelings, but it’s a decision he made.

In the end, this makes a difference to both your head space and where your heart is.

But what if she was the one who dumped him?

Things definitely get a bit more complicated.

Men tend to feed big egos. Being dumped by a woman they love is a huge blow to yours. You can leave it trashed and these could be pieces you don’t want to pick up.

4) Can you activate his hero instinct?

Have you heard of this simple, but effective concept?

If you really want this man to forget about his ex and make a special connection with you, then this is the best way to do it.

The hero instinct is a modern concept in psychology that is growing.

The idea is simple.

Men have this biological need to provide for and protect the women they care about. They just want to be your hero.

If you are as interested in this concept as I am and want to know more, the best thing to do is watch this free video from the relationship expert who discovered this concept. He reveals the simple things you can do starting right now.

Once you activate the hero instinct in your man, he can finally move on, move on from his ex-girlfriend, and open up to having genuine feelings for you.

5) Do not fall into the role of therapist

It’s only natural that you want to help him get over his ex so he can move on with you.

But assuming the role of therapist is the last thing you want.

You want to be his girlfriend, not his therapist. Even if he’s not over his ex, you’re not the one responsible for healing him.

It’s okay to listen to him and give him good advice when he needs it, but be careful not to overstep the bounds.

You can always suggest that they talk to a professional counselor, close friend or family member as well.

If he leans on you to help him through this, it will stain your relationship and be a constant reminder that it was built on the heartbreak that you helped him through. That is not the role you want to play in this relationship.

Also, come back to that all-important question: what do you get out of this?

Being the therapist in a relationship will not meet your needs, so don’t get stuck in a role that offers you nothing in return.

Relationships work both ways and you have to make sure you get back as much as you put in if you want to make it work.

6) Focus on the fun stuff

At the end of the day, it’s up to him to put his past relationship behind him.

It’s not your job to talk to him about his emotions or get him to work through them. You are there to see if there is something between the two of you and if together you can create something good.

So that should be your focus.

Keep things fun, be playful, joke around so you can get to know each other without the ex stigma on your minds forever.

Go out and create new memories together.

Go to the movies, to dance, to beers, for a coffee. Take a walk together, there are so many things that can be enjoyed by two.

The important thing is to connect in a fun, stress-free environment where you can both be yourselves and see if there’s something between you.

At least you know that no matter what, you’ll have good experiences together that you can one day look back on, no matter what direction the relationship takes.

It’s all about giving yourself a chance in the first place. So go out and have fun.

7) Can you take a step back?

If you’re still not sure whether or not you should take a chance on him, then it could mean that you need to take a step back from the relationship to re-evaluate it.

It could be that your guy just needs a little more time to process his feelings about his past relationship before he’s ready to move on with you.

You definitely want him to be ready and have his heart free, before moving on.

Let’s face it, the more romantically and emotionally involved you become with someone who isn’t ready for a new relationship, the more hurt you could be when your needs go unmet or your feelings go unrequited.

This will only result in resentment and a relationship that is going nowhere.

It’s all too easy to get hung up on whether or not he has feelings for his ex, and you could end up overlooking whether or not you really have feelings for him.

How do you know if you’re really not over your ex yet?

In addition to everything we have discussed, there are other signs that will let you know if you have not gotten over your ex yet.

1) You still keep in touch with your ex

It is normal to talk to an ex from time to time, especially if there are unfinished business or things to return.

But if your new partner doesn’t stop contacting or texting their ex every day for different reasons, then they probably aren’t over it.

2) He is very changeable with you

A man who knows what he wants will show you his interest every day.

However, if this guy is still not over his ex, he could be very affectionate some days and completely cold others.

That’s because he still hasn’t finished deciding in his head if he wants to go ahead and get involved with you.

3) He does not want anything serious

Do not fall into the trap of thinking that even if a man tells you that he does not want anything serious, you can change him.

When a guy tells you that he is not ready for a commitment you must believe him, it is very likely that he is still working on his past feelings.

4) “Stalkea” your ex in networks

This point is a bit more difficult to spot since it probably won’t do it in front of you.

But if you’ve caught him on more than one occasion, snooping on his ex’s Instagram, or liking his posts, it’s a sign that he’s still not over it.

When someone really moves on after a breakup, they’d rather not be aware of what their ex is doing. If he, on the other hand, continues to watch every step she takes, it means that he has not surpassed her.

5) You realize that deep down he is not completely happy with you

There is something that we women have and it is a special intuition when it comes to emotional matters.

If this man has moved on and is truly connected to you you will know. Because of his attitudes, the way he looks at you, how he enjoys every moment by your side.

If, on the other hand, you notice an air of nostalgia in each moment they share, it is clear that there is something (or someone) that still remains in their thoughts and does not allow them to surrender.

If he avoids telling you how he feels even when you ask him, you sense that when you’re together you have a good time but he doesn’t feel complete, or you’re intimate but you sense something is missing, you probably aren’t over your ex.

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