Has love gone cold? 17 tips that will make you fall in love with your partner all over again!

1- Stop criticizing.

Instead of verbally criticizing your partner—that is, saying exactly what you don’t like about them—try to show them the consequences of their actions.

Say you feel anxious, embarrassed, abandoned, and so on. Once a person knows why the behavior poses a problem—and understands the feeling, since they likely feel the same way—the likelihood of getting a “civilized” response is much higher.

2- Look for positive aspects.

To stop criticizing, it is necessary to start looking for good things and develop a positive mindset; whenever you think something negative about him, replace it with something you admire in the person, rewarding yourself for the effort.

Rewards help to develop new habits and maintain them.

3- Be affectionate.

Physical affection is one of the clearest ways to communicate love and care. Studies show that students double the effort when they receive – from a teacher – a simple encouraging pat on the back.

A massage from someone you love can fight depression and even lessen pain. Physical and verbal affection can communicate what words cannot, helping to save a relationship.

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4- Pay attention to your partner.

Giving your undivided attention to the other person is important to show that you value them; if he wants to talk while he’s watching TV, reading a magazine or is distracting himself on social media, you’re not really paying attention.

Instead, try to focus on the person’s eyes while they are talking.

5- Listen to your partner.

It’s not enough to listen, you have to listen actively, waiting for the other person to finish talking before exposing their thoughts, without necessarily trying to solve the problem.

Show that you understand what he is talking about by sharing an experience similar to the one just told.

6- Identify new aspects of your partner.

When the relationship has lasted for years, it is likely that both of you have changed, especially if you have children. Make an effort to “get to know the person again” by asking questions about what they like and don’t like.

If she doesn’t know the answer, offer to take her somewhere for dinner and reminisce about their life!

7- Be kind.

For this, it is necessary to make an effort, even recording your interactions with the consort to verify how “complains too much”.

Try creating lists of what bothers you about each person and writing what your “normal” response looks like. Try to respond differently every time your partner does any of these things.

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8- Ask for the things you need.

By changing his behavior without telling him why, you can end up feeling hopeful to see a change without letting him know the reason for the disappointment.

Tell him you’re determined to change the situation in the relationship and ask him what he needs.

9- Act as if you are just getting to know each other.

To “get to know” your partner, pretend the relationship is “new”; start hanging out together and ask basic questions.

It’s quite possible to be surprised to find that his favorite color has changed or that his favorite food hasn’t been spaghetti in a long time.

10- Do new things together.

As part of the new “plan” to go out and have fun, look for new experiences, places you’ve never been and always wanted to go.

Look for new activities in the city, travel to nearby cities or other countries and create new rituals with your “soulmate” to cultivate loving feelings.

11- Remember the good times of dating.

Remember the time of the beginning of the relationship, when one did not criticize the other and accepted each other unconditionally.

Talk about your first date, your favorite outings, how the first kiss was delicious, and all the times you held hands and did fun things together.

Bringing those memories back to the surface can help both of you feel those emotions again.

12- Do things you haven’t tried in a long time.

As you look back over the early days and months of your relationship, you will be able to remember things you used to do together but stopped due to busy life. Try to “re-create” the first date or visit friends you haven’t seen in a long time.

13- Write down the things that make you nervous.

Love for your partner may have been lost due to something he did that led to your deep irritation. The only way to love him again after feeling this anger is to forgive him.

Start by writing down the things he did that annoyed you.

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14- Also write down the hurts.

The same things that make you angry may also have hurt you, but you can feel hurt without getting angry.

Make another list by writing down everything you can think of that your partner did (or didn’t do) that hurt you. You can tell that something has bothered you if you feel that there is a strong emotional response to it when you think about it.

15- Forgive.

Now that you’ve created the lists, it’s time to let go of the anger, pain, and hurt by forgiving your partner.

This is usually an ongoing process – it can be very painful and tearful – so it’s a good idea to ask a trusted person or therapist for help with this phase.

16- Ask your partner to write the same things.

Most likely, he also has a lot of accumulated negativity towards you. Ask him to write down the things he did that hurt and irritated him.

You don’t need to ask for forgiveness just yet, just that you can look at the aspects of the relationship that are hurting you.

17- Ask for forgiveness.

Show repentance for the things your partner wrote on the lists and ask for forgiveness. That means he chose to change and agree to stop doing the things that hurt and angered him.

Bonus Tips:

• If your partner doesn’t seem committed to making love between you bloom again – even after explaining that it’s hard to get back in love with him – you may need to clearly explain how you feel. If you suspect cheating – or know there has been – and your partner doesn’t seem to be sorry, couples therapy can be a good idea to overcome this obstacle.
• Seek outside help, such as a relationship counselor, specialist therapy, or even a trusted relative when your partner doesn’t seem to be making the effort to get you to love each other again.

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