Go up or down the stairs

Suppose we are in front of a staircase, and next to us is an essential person in our life (partner, friend, family). As we climb the steps in unison everything is wonderful. The moment one decides to climb one or two steps but the other person doesn’t, we still won’t have problems, because we can still reach each other with our hands.

But you go up one more step and that person decides not to do it. His hands begin to stretch and discomfort begins to arise. Just one more step and we will see that the pull is strong, that the first discomfort appears and that your progress is slowed. But you want that person to go up with you so you don’t lose them.

Unfortunately, the time for that person to rise has not yet come., and while you ascend the steps, she remains in her initial position. From that moment on it will be very difficult to keep you together… it will hurt us a lot, and the suffering will begin. We will want it to go up so as not to lose it but we will also want not to go down from the step we have reached.

One more move and the inevitable happens. Our hands are definitively released and at that moment, we can stay crying and trying to convince that person to accompany us, or we can even go down a level in order not to lose them.

But let’s admit it, since that break on that step, nothing will ever be the same again.. AND THEN WE UNDERSTAND THAT THE ONLY THING WE HAVE LEFT IS TO CONTINUE MOVING FORWARD.

This happens when you begin your path of inner maturity, in that progress you lose many things: partner, friends, work, belongings…Everything that no longer matches the person you need to be, and everything that cannot be at the level of the path you want to reach.

We can fight with our entire lives, but that’s how the process is. Our growth and change is individual, not as a group. Maybe that person over time will catch up with us on the ladder or rise higher than us. But it will be because she needed it that way at a favorable moment for her. Nothing can be forced in this life.

There will come a time on your ladder, when you have reached a certain step and you feel like a better person, a moment when you can stay alone for a while… even if it hurts. Where as you progress you meet people much more similar to you.