Former couples who do not want the other to advance: how they act

In our hearts there is a little corner reserved for exes and exes, a comfortable space in which they remain calm without disturbing, without attracting attention, without invading other spaces. When we leave the relationship exes get tiny until they fit in it and you, finally, have space to have new romances and new loves.

There are exes who calmly accept being placed in that little corner of your heart, who grow smaller and settle comfortably in it, in the company of other exes. However, some rebel and refuse to enter it.

They feel that in that space we left them in the past and they want to be in the present at all costs, they want to have a presence in your life, they want to be part of your day to day, they want to be in the foreground all the time.

They can’t stand being one more in your heart, They can’t stand you living your life and having new affections and new loves. Most are like the dog in the manger: neither eat nor let eat.

Why do some exes resist being forgotten?

It is an ego problem, fundamentally. But there is also a lot of machismo in their refusal to be kept in the ex’s corner. Normally it is because they do not want to be one more, but also because they find it unbearable that a woman forgets about them and live your life as if they did not exist.

It is arrogance, it is selfishness, it is egocentrism, it is evil too. This kind of ex is the worst and the most dangerous because she is compulsively dedicated to making women fall in love and their self-esteem depends entirely on the number of women in love they have at their feet.

This type of ex, even if he doesn’t feel anything special for them, wants to have a good list of women in need of love, an agenda of girls to call when you get bored with your girlfriend or wife.

Some of them don’t really have a partner and don’t want to take you to bed, let alone have a brief romance, let alone resume the relationship.

most what They want to feel important simply. Feeling needed, feeling that you cannot be happy without them, feeling that they occupy a monumental space in your heart. They tend to be insecure men with many masculinity problems.

His strategies for getting out of the ex’s corner

To try to have a presence in your life, this type of Ex is capable of kicking the door of your ex’s corner and going outside to invade your whole heart. The most common strategy is to lie, play the victim and try to make you feel like a special woman, different to the others. That’s why he tells you things like:

“I miss you so much, I dream about you at night.””I’m finally realizing how much you’re worth. Before, when I was with you, I didn’t see it and I regret it so much.””I was stupid treating you badly and letting you go, I wonder if I could go back…””I have never felt as much for someone as for you.””I have never fallen in love with anyone again and I only think of you.””Ours was so special that I think I will never return to feel the same with others.””I ask myself what my life would be like if you were with me, I’m sure it would be happier.””I regret so much that I didn’t know how to enjoy being by your side.””If I could go back to the past, I would make you the happiest woman in the world.””If you gave me a chance, I would show you how much I have changed.””I think of you all the time and I keep you in mind every day, even when I am with my girlfriend.”

Many use the trick of making you believe that your current girlfriend does not fulfill you, that he is bored with her, that he is unhappy, that she does not love him or that he feels trapped because she is a bad person, restricts his freedom or does not give him what he needs.

He will always try to compare you so that you think you are better than his current partner. She believes that her partner will never know how badly she is talking about her to seduce you. He also doesn’t care much if she finds out. For the most macho exes, any method to seduce a woman, even if it involves lying and speaking ill of other women, is valid.

What to do if your ex is of this type?

To these self-centered exes, who don’t feel comfortable in the little corner of exes, we must definitely get them out of our hearts. Because to be able to fall in love again, to be able to live our lives, these exes have to get smaller and smaller, until they fit in their little corner.

And they have to stay there quietly, knowing that you love them but that you no longer love them or are part of your present. Those who do not have the humility and generosity necessary to become small do not deserve to be in your heart.

11 types of men who don’t suit you (and how to recognize them)

1. Pathological liars

A liar is caught sooner than a lame person, they say. Well, not always, but the liars they often contradict each other and they always end up falling into their own trap, no matter how much they take care of the details.

Some they lie compulsivelyeven in things in which they do not need to: the worst are those who, in addition to lying, invent reality with their powerful fantasy so that you get a totally distorted image of them, who tend to always present themselves as successful men so that you fall for their feet first.

2. Daffodils

Have very good opinion of themselvesbut they are very heavy. They look at each other in all the shop windows, they take maximum care of their image, they also look very beautiful on the inside, they like each other very much and it shows when they talk about their body, their clothes, their abilities, their knowledge. They are pedantic, and almost make you thank you for letting you be with them.

They need constant applause and admirationbut they forget to correspond to the other person, it is difficult for them to speak well of you, and they demand a lot of attention.

3. Men with problems

In the first conversations you will be able to realize the problems they have, their dimension and size, and therefore, you will have to assess whether these problems will affect you, and to what extent they will determine the relationship. For example, financial and debt problems, problems with some addiction from which they say they have been cured (but not), existential problems and various tragedies (the bitter classic that wants to make you bitter too), problems with your ex-wife, problems with your children, problems at work or in business.

You may be tempted to be his Savior: do not do it. You are not going to save him from anything, you are not going to cure him or change him. From the deep wells you get out working what you have to work to generate a change, or several: nobody can get anyone out of there. And also, sometimes what the help does is delve into the problem, not solve it.

Love isn’t going to magically transform him, neither are you.

4. Men obsessed with their ex

They talk about her on their first date. It may be just one, or it may be all: there are men who live in the past, and who have not been able to forget their partners.

They are hurt, they have a great sense of injustice, they feel powerless, they tell their story with a lot of passion, and they want you to take their side. But you immediately realize that they didn’t have the problem, he did, and he couldn’t overcome it.

You walk away because you know that from there, you will never build a couple of two. Your ex, or her ex, will always be there with you, and between you. She runs away.

5. Married men

At first they don’t saybut you can see them from a league away. They can’t stay to sleepthey cannot spend the weekends locked up with you making love, they are not available at any time, and they are all excuses.

When they confess that they are married, they usually they want to make you believe that their marriage is broken or is finished, that they need affection because they feel alone, that they are there but they would not want to be, and that they are going to get divorced soon. don’t ever believe them, no matter how victimized they get. They will never get divorced and they will try to make you believe them all the time.

The excuses are always the same: children, an illness, a problem of any kind… Married men only offer crumbs of their time, they make you believe that you are in the foreground and they always put you in the background, they ask you to be empathetic with them and put yourself in their place… Definitely, they do not suit you.

6. Men of insecure and fragile masculinity

They tend to be ladies, great seducers. They worry a lot about winning you over and then they run away. They measure their virility by the number of women they conquer. They don’t care about quality, but quantity, and being able to strut their stuff in front of their friends.

They don’t enjoy sex or love because they think more about how they are going to tell it than how they are experiencing it at that moment. Are obsessed with looking very manlyand they spend a lot of energy hiding their fears and hiding their vulnerability.

They need your admiration and desire, they become dominant and refuse to be submissive. They exercise their authority overwhelmingly, and the more insecure they are, the more violent they are.

7. The macho

They come in all shapes and colors: some are blatantly macho, others they hideand others are working on it.

The first ones drop you a macho joke on the second date, they are extremely chivalrous or are they the opposite. If he’s always ahead of you when you walk, Trump-style, then I’m sure he’s a guy with an air of superiority. Yeah cheeky look at beautiful women you cross paths with, then it’s because their insecure masculinity wants you insecure too.

8. The anti-feminists

On the first date he will bring up the subject and say things like:

“Feminists were the ones before, those of now are radicals.””Neither machismo nor feminism: humanism.””Now you can’t even flirt.””They are bitter and they are all ugly and lesbians.””Almost all are complaints false”. “He put my friend in the dungeon for revenge, but he hadn’t touched her by a hair”. “The feminazis want to destroy everything”.

In fifteen minutes stop looking so handsome and smartin half an hour you’ll be wanting to get out of there and never see him again.

9. Feminists who don’t work for it

They are the new prince charming. They seem very feminist, but only in speech: they don’t put their revolutionary ideals into practice, they don’t take them to bed or into the house. So they disappoint you, inevitably.

You recognize them because in their speech there is no coherence between what he does, what he thinks, what he feels and what he says.

10. Psychopaths

They tend to be charming. your friends like it and friends because he is also charming with them. He is nice, he constantly shows that he wants a serious relationship, he is enthusiastic about you and every now and then he finds matches between the two. If you tell him you’re passionate about collecting stamps, so will he. If you tell him that you are fascinated by Russian literature or Argentine cinema, he will too.

is manipulative so he will try to bring you to the reality that he is building for both of you, and will make you doubt yourself. At first everything is wonderful, but conflicts start soon. He has a complete lack of empathy, although at first he hides very well.

11. Polyamorous with no time for love

They are that they have an official couple and several couples, and they barely have a few crumbs of time to devote to the new lover. They suffer because they also have family, friends, hobbies, and they have to work…