Five truths that will help you take control of your life

The difference between living and surviving lies in having the courage to take charge of our own circumstances.

Written and verified by the psychologist Elena Sanz.

There are many people who, due to certain life experiences, feel helpless against the vagaries of destiny. Living and surviving are not interchangeable terms and, unfortunately, many human beings limit themselves to fulfilling routines and obligations without even considering what they truly want to achieve. In this article we tell you five truths that will help you understand that it is in your hands to take control of your life.

People who have an internal locus of control tend to be more responsible and exert greater effort. This is why they obtain better results when it comes to achieving their goals. Instead, Those who believe that events occur based on luck or chance are less motivated to actively participate in changing their own circumstances.

If this is your case, you must remember that you are the only owner of your own destiny. That Your thoughts and actions have an impact on reality but above all on your emotional well-being.. Only you can provide you with the life you want.

Five truths to take control of your life

1. When you face your fears, they fade away

The great paradox of fear is that the avoidance it provokes in us is precisely what reinforces it. When you avoid a situation by not facing your fears, they are gaining power and you are losing it. Each avoidance makes you perceive them as more frightening and you as more incapable.

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The day you decide to face your fears, they will begin to fade. With each exposure to them you will gain confidence and verify that the worst only happened in your mind. You will never be truly free if your fears condition your life. Take charge and face them, don’t be afraid to ask for professional help if necessary.

2. Your mood cannot depend on anything external, or it will cease to be yours.

It is easy to feel affected by the circumstances or behaviors of others. If we do not work on emotional regulation, the weather, traffic or a comment from our partner can dominate our mood. But when you allow external elements to generate anger or sadness in you, you are losing control over yourself.

Strive to be your own emotional center. When you have built a safe and peaceful place within yourself, no person or circumstance can take it away from you. You can’t always choose what happens, but it’s always up to you to decide how to feel.

3. No relationship is worth betraying yourself.

If you want to take charge of your life you have to give yourself the place of captain of the ship. When you constantly give in to the desires and requests of others, you make yourself small. When you ignore your inner voice and betray your principles and needs for fear of being abandoned, you become helpless. Always remember that no healthy relationship will require you to cancel yourself to give up your power to another.

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4. If you think you will fail, you have already failed

Much of our reality begins to take shape in our minds. If before starting an activity or facing a challenge you keep telling yourself that you will fail, rest assured that you are very likely to fail. This constant negative internal dialogue will leave you without motivation, you will adopt a passive and defeatist attitude with which it is very difficult to move forward.

On the contrary, if you remain optimistic and confident you will do your best to achieve your goals. You will develop your skills and improve every day. You may not reach your goal but the chances will be much greater than in the first case.

5. It doesn’t hurt so you suffer, it hurts so you change

Disappointment, frustration are an inevitable part of life. However, adversities often hide a very valuable message: you are not on the right path. Sometimes pain helps us move away from people and situations that do not suit us, that do not allow us to be ourselves. Always try to find learning and continue growing, do not get stuck in pain.

Start taking control of your life

Your life is a fascinating opportunity that has only been given to you, do not give up on making it an adventure. Know yourself, understand yourself and improve yourself every day. Visualize your goals and work for them. Remember that you are the protagonist and the director of your own movie, turn it into a masterpiece.