Explain to the child what the magic of words means and he will never feel offended.

How to convey as clearly as possible the idea that words can have a special value? And if they are used incorrectly, they can have such an effect that their consequences will be unpredictable. Author and illustrator Sveta Dorosheva shared a curious dialogue she had with her son. A good example of how important and meaningful things can be explained easily and simply.

At the awesome.club we expect everyone to use the “magic of words” exclusively for good purposes.

After school, my son waits for me to serve him his meal and asks me:
— Mom, are premature babies normal?
“Of course they are. Today is no problem. They get special attention, and then they’re fine.
— And why then do they usually say that premature children are different?
“God knows!” But people often say a lot of things that have nothing to do with reality.
“Then why do they do it?”
“Listen, I’m going to reveal something to you now. Remember this, even if you don’t understand. Are you ready?
— Yes, prepared. (Puts the phone away looking into my eyes.)

“It’s pure magic.
“Come on, stop it!” I do not believe in you.
🇧🇷 Words are pure magic. Look. If you call a man an animal, he won’t grow horns or hooves on him, but if he doesn’t know anything about magic, it’s quite possible he’ll start behaving like one: answering rudeness, spitting and kicking with his invisible hooves. Another example. Let’s say an individual was told that he is a…
– Idiot.
“Great.
– Lost.
“A lost idiot. It’s a great example. What happens in this case?
– He takes offense.
“Of course you are offended. Feel bad. It gets bothered. Your breathing rate increases. It turns red. But why? Did someone hit him? Not. Do you feel any pain? Not. But he is suffering. Because the word made him suffer. Isn’t it magic? Words have magical powers.
“Curse words?
“Especially the gross ones. It’s like black magic. It works immediately, but often has a side effect.
“What about normal words?”
“All words are magic. Pay attention to the third example. You arrive at a restaurant. Ask what they serve. And the waiter replies: “A steak”.

– Ok, this is good.
– Clear. Now the same situation. You ask, “What’s there to eat?” And the waiter tells you: “A piece of fried meat from a cow killed by an electrical discharge in a slaughterhouse”.
– What? I don’t want.
“But it’s the same thing. Same dish, just described in different words. But your reaction will be different. It sounds the same, but the reality is changing. Doesn’t it look like magic to you?
– Of course yes.
“That’s the basics. There’s a lot more to learn. Words are complex magic. Eat your chop.
“Nooooo… A piece of killer cow…”
– No. It’s just a chuleta. The trial magic session is now over.
And he ate.

And you, do you usually talk to your children about complex things using simple words?