Don’t you ever get tired of pretending that everything is fine?

There are certain stages in our lives when Pretending to be socially accepted begins to make no sense. Smiling when we don’t feel like it, trying to make everyone like us and trying to be perfect is quite exhausting, in addition to being frustrating.

Not everything is fine nor are we always comfortable, but it seems that we are obliged to be cheerful, happy and tolerant people with anything at all times. Pretending is painful, it’s time we realize it.

I won’t pretend anymore

“I won’t put up with some things anymore.not because I have become arrogant, but simply because I have reached a point in my life where I don’t feel like wasting any more time with what displeases or hurts me.

I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who don’t like me, to love those who don’t love me and to smile for those who don’t want to smile at me.

I will no longer dedicate a minute to anyone who lies to me or wants to manipulate me. I decided to no longer live with pretentiousness, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective scholarship and academic haughtiness.

I will no longer mix with the crowd or the rabble. I can’t stand conflicts and comparisons. I believe in a diverse world and that is why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible characters.

In friendship I dislike lack of loyalty and betrayal. I don’t get along at all with those who don’t know how to praise or encourage. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who don’t like animals. And above all, I no longer have any patience for those who do not deserve it.…”.

-José Micard Teixeira in “Tattoos in a grain of sand”-

Don’t fake smiles anymore

We tend to pretend that everything is fine even if it is not when in reality we have no reason to always be happy and content. There are complicated circumstances that require negative emotions such as sadness or anger.

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The fact that they are negative does not mean that they are not healthy. I mean, isn’t it normal to feel sad when your heart has been broken or when a family member gets sick?

There is nothing more painful than trying to pretend to be okay when something is hurting us inside. This ends up turning against us, because We end up getting into a spiral that absorbs us and squeezes our soul.

Did you know that eight out of ten people who are sad pretend to be fine?

Our emotions end up centrifuging, so they end up wrinkled and full of prejudices. We don’t realize that they are poisoning us and making us feel weak, Well, not only do we live by “deceiving” others, but we also appear good in the mirror.

We don’t have to be perfect

For this reason, it is necessary that we get rid of the obligation to always be perfect and ready and begin to show ourselves as we are without pretending. Well, Although it is possible to deceive others, it is impossible to deceive our conscience.

Pretending to be what we are not ends up causing us discomfort and even ailments such as depression, anxiety, fatigue, slowness, hopelessness, fatigue, insomnia, irritability…

We must try to be authentic, not pretend and show ourselves as we are at all times; Likewise, it is important that we allow ourselves to make mistakes and not be ashamed of our past.

If we face all this, we will be able to treat ourselves better and we will be able to reinvent our lives. Because this does not require us to be perfect, but to be happy, and in order to achieve this we have to accept our lights and our shadows.

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The most important learning of our lives is to get to know ourselves, accept ourselves and love ourselves, although to do so we have to unlearn many things and get rid of beliefs and manipulations that have subjected us for so many years…