“Don’t give flowers to a tired woman.” A text about how there are things more valuable than trivial gifts

Don’t give flowers to a tired woman.

It’s serious: flowers are beautiful when there’s a mood to appreciate them. It is also important for those who give to get some reaction, like “Oh, how beautiful, they are my favorites!” An exhausted woman sometimes doesn’t even have the strength for that. To the other person it may seem confusing as they were really trying to please. From my perspective, though, I need to cut the flowers, put them in a vase, and show how grateful and surprised I am. But I don’t always have the energy for that.

Want to satisfy a tired woman? Feed her. Or even cook dinner, but don’t forget to do the dishes afterwards. Or ask for a delivery🇧🇷 One of the most romantic phrases I’ve ever heard was a request to send a photo. Not mine, but my fridge: “I know you probably didn’t eat well today and your fridge is usually empty. So send me a photo so I can buy what’s missing”. No flowers or serenades, by the way. Hire a tired woman with a cleaning service—to lighten the workload and keep the house clean. Believe me, this is a real surprise for many women. It works like magic.

They are in conflict. The husband complains because he bought his wife an expensive and beautiful bedding, but she was not satisfied. She says she doesn’t recognize his effort. The woman explains, once again, that she hasn’t shaved or had her nails done for three weeks because her husband never takes care of the children because he doesn’t have time, he’s always tired or busy. So the bedding is almost like an insult to her: “I’m exhausted and I still have to fix the sheets for him to sleep?!”

At night, the man arrives with a cake in hand for the two to spend a pleasant, romantic evening. But she is exhausted. All because, before eating the cake, she had to iron the pillowcases, wash the dishes, prepare something for breakfast the next morning, shower and put the kids to bed. And while the handsome guy sits and waits in the kitchen, she runs back and forth. After the marathon and a few requests for help, she lays down to sleep, and her husband thinks it’s a challenge: he tried and wanted to pay more attention, but it was all in vain.

That’s the problem. When we want to make someone feel good, are we really trying to please them? If so, then you need to consider her individual needs. What is important to her? Rest, two hours of quiet, some time alone, or just minimal help around the house? That must be the mindset to actually make that person feel good.

If I do something just because I want to, who benefits most in this scenario? Wouldn’t that be self-satisfaction? I want to show how good a person I am and what I am capable of doing for my partner. How I went out of my way to show how considerate or considerate I am. Often, we have to admit that we don’t have an iota of consideration for the other’s needs. Everything is just a desire to be recognized, to have the ego softened and to be “decorated”.

So many men complain that modern women are too independent and demanding. They say there are no more ways to surprise them. Well, maybe cliches really don’t work anymore. No more bouquets. It’s a thing of the past. The only thing that can enchant a modern woman is a relationship of care, respect, affection and sincerity. Everything else, she’s already seen.