Do you miss someone who is gone? This post is for you

We all have someone who’s gone that we miss. It’s such a vulnerable issue that it’s hard to express what we feel. And even more so for our relatives to know how to console us, because, however rich our language is, there are no words to express it.

O awesome.club brings a reflection for you to face the possible loss.

Life is a journey, and on that journey many of those we love fall along the way. We know that we must move forward and, from that continuation, the subsequent steps are the most difficult, because we have lost the compass of those who walked with us.

What should we do?

In this regard, experts say that many people, consciously or unconsciously, shut down their emotions, either to avoid suffering or fear of social rejection. Although, recognize our emotions is the first step to processing them. They also add that today’s society generally makes the task difficult when it requires overcoming those who still cannot turn the page with phrases such as: “don’t be sad” and “it’s time to get over it”, when in reality, those who suffer need to be understood . They recommend that a phrase like “I’m sorry for the loss you’ve had” can do more good than all of the above combined.

No one can tell you how long you should feel this way, it’s your process, and it’s your emotions that you must sort out. The important thing is that you feel the determination to move forward.🇧🇷 If, in the process of facing it, the tears ask to come out, then let them flow. Swallowing our sorrows may make us appear strong to the world, but deep inside it slows down the process of adaptation and healing.

In our minds, thoughts such as “what would have happened if…”; “I never told him that…”; or even “if he were here…”

Experts warn of the danger of self-recriminations that can stagnate our present for actions we did or failed to do in the past and even lead to mental and physical problems. Learning to manage guilt It is essential for healthy grief.

It’s normal to want time to go back in time to work properly with the eyes of the present, but don’t allow your mind to make recriminations that could harm you. The truth is there are no perfect endings, because we, the protagonists of the story, are imperfect. Learn to forgive yourself, think of the beautiful things in the past, and save your wealth for your present.

Certainly, one of the first conflicts that arise in the environment when talking about a loved one who has passed away is an awkward silence. Quoting him is generally avoided, probably to escape a distressing theme.

In this regard, experts emphasize that this escape from the surroundings is normal because society is often uncomfortable with the pain of loved ones, but those who go through grief need to speak not only of what happened, but of the bond that linked him to the deceased. Naming it does no harm.

We cannot live in the past, but neither can we ignore it. Talking about those who constituted a part of our lives is more natural than silencing them as if they were a taboo subject. It is not about pronouncing at all times, but about not being silent.

Professionals claim that in this process, someone is in the dichotomy of choosing to live with the impotence of pain or assume the loss to follow the path of life with a new learning of personal improvement.

Remember that person for happiness of having her in your life instead of focusing on missing her. Overcoming grief is not forgetting, but looking at the footprints of those who left to move forward, because they are traits that marked her heart and influenced her steps. We tend to be so sad that we focus on the person who is no longer there, rather than thanking them for being with us and for the shared learning that constitutes us as people.

Do not be afraid, because your present is full of the past and your future of new dreams and projects. Sometimes it’s about looking forward and turning every now and then to guide us through the tracks of those who are gone.

Make a point of remembering the person with a smile and keep in mind that it’s not just about saying goodbye, but also…”thanks🇧🇷

Mourning is one of the most complex processes for man, because it is not only about understanding the situation with reason, but also about stabilizing our emotions. Once you have decided to move forward, you will see how you move forward by appreciating the wealth left by the past in your current life.

And you, is there anyone you miss? And what would you say to a person who lost a loved one to comfort them?