Do you know which fantasies produce well-being and which produce misery?

When we talk about fantasies, many believe that we are talking about a topic very far from reality. everyday. It is assumed that the fantastic is only associated with extraordinary or unusual events. However, if there is one thing we do in our daily lives, it is deal with fantasies.

We can say that, Basically, we live immersed all the time in a set of fantasies. Much of what we do or fail to do is based only on imaginary reasons and not real ones, in the strict sense of the term. To the question of why we live this way and not another, many will surely respond with arguments that are much more cultural fantasy than vital reality.

There are creative fantasies. They are those that do depart from the common and introduce the extraordinary. However, There are also uncreative fantasies. They are what we hear others say and we repeat as if they were true.. They are the ones that are most strongly rooted in a culture and that is why they are presented as truth, even if they are not.

We do not have, and should not have, an objective perception of ourselves and the world around us. Much of what makes up our ideas is influenced by the fantasies with which we were educated. and for those that we ourselves have built. The good thing is that the fantastic is also plastic: it can be molded, transformed, changed. He is not subject to the implacable laws of any reality.

The wonderful fantasies

Some fantasies help us feed the desire to live and evolve. For example when we have the perception that we deserve a lot and that something good will always come to our lives. They translate as optimism, perseverance and resilience.

The paradox is that, although these fantasies are not based on objective proof, they manage to become reality.. They are born as convictions without evidence, but they nourish a subject so positively that they allow him to be more fair with himself and find the best in each situation.

Every great human feat has begun as a fantastic dream. The opposite does not happen, as in science. The evidence is not found to make the statement, but rather the statement is made first and then the evidence is extracted from reality. That is why it can be said that as far as you dream, that is how far you will go.

The terrible fantasies

The opposite also occurs in the human mind. People are capable of creating true nightmares, which in principle are only in our minds.. You think that everything is going to go wrong and, even if it goes well, it will go wrong for you. You believe that you don’t deserve it and even though there is no evidence to affirm that, you end up giving up or sabotaging the chances of being better.

Some of those terrible fantasies go even further. Sometimes they are expressed as delusions that have different intensity. An imaginary guilt is capable of leading you to create an imaginary persecution as well.. The fear of falling causes you to stumble. Crazy jealousy sows the seeds of infidelity in the other.

There are cases in which fantasy becomes invasive and takes control. You can be sure that if you sleep you will never wake up. Or believe that your body is a bag of fat and stop eating. It is even possible that you imagine that your value is null, or your life is meaningless, and, consciously or unconsciously, you insist on dying.

The limit for fantasy

We are, first of all, a happy, feared or unexpected fantasy of our parents. The meaning they give us is what makes our lives possible. If they had not interpreted our arrival into the world, in a fantastic way, we would not have been born. They built an idea, without evidence, of what our life on the planet would be like. And they said “yes.”

Fantasies are in the essence of being human. From them we come and towards them we go. Every expectation in the face of death has a fantastic dose. Every expectation in life, too. Uncertainty is the only real thing. We fill the rest with creations of our imagination.

However, the world of the fantastic encompasses a wide range of nuances. It ranges from the completely absurd to the reasonable and probable. To create, to make art, we should give free rein to our fantasies. To live, it is advisable to stay within the limits of what is possible. And in all cases it helps us a lot to understand that we can always redesign our fantasies so that they are a force for and not against.

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