Defend yourself from bad people

There have always been and always will be ill-considered people.. We cannot expel them from our lives so easily, because they are often an inevitable part of it: family, friends… Far from allowing ourselves to be influenced or even tortured by their projections, comments and thoughts, it is much better to learn to confront them, to be a little more impermeable with respect to them, thus maintaining a healthy distance.

Now, let’s go a little further. What’s behind bad thinking people? Is it perhaps an illness, a distinctive personality trait? The truth is that These types of profiles combine a whole series of traits in their behaviors. very interesting to address. A way of understanding them that, without a doubt, will help us.

Negative thoughts and self-esteem

We already have an almost essential clue about poorly thought-out people: self-esteem. Surely you yourself have experienced more than one similar situation: people who, without knowing why, and despite having a close relationship with you, almost always distrust what you tell them. Of what you do. They do not believe your words and tend to deduce aspects that are totally wrong and out of place. Even extreme.

Psychologists Abalakina-Paap, M. Stephan, and Winston Craig from the University of California point out something important to us thanks to a study. The human brain is characterized by distrust. This is because of a very simple fact: we manage to be more prudent to guarantee our survival. However, there are profiles that are more distrustful than others. Those who are incapable of building bonds based on trust and respect for those around them.

Distrust and low self-esteem, the circle of suffering

Distrustful people always tend to be alert to everything others say or do, sometimes interpreting that someone is plotting something against them.. Unfounded suspicions, insecurities, incorrect judgments… They are profiles that can sometimes fall into the paranoid.

Often, It is also difficult for us to strengthen ties of trust with these people.because from them we only get their sanction, their reproach, their sharp gaze thinking the worst about us. Added to this low self-esteem is their lack of closeness, and zero affectivity.

Any feeling full of emotion and closeness can become threatening to your cold and calculating mind. There is rarely tenderness, hence they themselves fall into a kind of vicious circle.: distrust – bad thoughts – people who avoid them – feeling of loneliness – anger – distrust once again.

How to treat bad people

We know, sometimes it is difficult and can lead us to exasperation. But we must see all those gaps that truly make up these types of poorly thought-out people: their lack of self-esteem, their loneliness, their lack of emotional empathy and in essence… their ability to be happy.

On the other hand, there is an aspect that we must take into account. If these behaviors are extreme and continuous, it is very possible that we are facing a paranoid personality disorder.. In the event that problematic situations arise, it is necessary to recommend that person seek specialized help. Putting distance is not always the only answer, and even more so if that ill-considered person is your father or that friend whom you must see more than usual. what would you like.

Yes If physical distance is not possible, maintain an emotional distance, prevent what they tell you from harming you.

In our daily lives, we ourselves must take care not to fall into these drifts guided by excessive mistrust.

Thinking badly about others almost every moment ends up leaving us cornered in loneliness. more absolute and also in suffering. Let’s deal with these situations. Let us also defend ourselves from those who dare to violate our psychological and emotional stability with their constant conspiracies and mistrust. Nobody deserves to live this way.

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