Complicity: the magnetic bond that competes with love

We all want to find someone whose demons understand ours. TOsomeone who has the key to our locks, with whom we feel so safe that we let them open them without fear of the complicity experienced. Someone with whom our true self resurfaces and we can be ourselves.

It is something better than love because each one discovers a part of the other without the need for words and with the need for a life full of permanence. A complicity is achieved with those people whom you cling to in order not to let the present slip away from you. while you think about everything that awaits you.

There are those who call them home people, because they give you the warmth of a comforting hug and the pleasure of collecting the reasons and strength necessary to face everyday life and flow with life.

They make you breathe love and smile stupidly when you remember that the coincidence that wherever you are, you find yourself in the same coordinates through your glances.

The body language of complicity

There are looks that say it all and a whole that is filled with looks. What we call complicity is a special union that transcends love, that is flooded with it and that is understood. Because loving is not only loving, but above all understanding.

“I still believe that our best dialogue has been that of looks. Words, consciously or unconsciously, often lie, but eyes never cease to be truthful.

If I have ever tried to lie to someone with my eyes, my eyelids droop, they spontaneously lower their protective curtain, and they stay there until I and my eyes recover the obligation of the truth.

With words everything is more complex, but still, if words try to deceive, the eyes usually contradict the mouth.”

-Mario Benedetti-

For complicity there are no secrets in looks, gestures or hugs. They are those people who know that even if we tell them that everything is fine, they know that it is not. In fact, they probably don’t even need to look at us or hear us talk. They are not fortune tellers but they understand us beyond mirages and appearances.

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The air you breathe is enough to know that the connection is pure fantasy, that it goes beyond a sincere smile or a wise look. Between two complicit people an atmosphere is created that becomes a kind of emotional prophecy that links feelings and hearts.

A home where souls fly

“People think a soulmate is the person you fit in perfectly, which is what everyone wants. But an authentic soulmate is a mirror, he is the person who brings out everything you have repressed, who makes you look inward so you can change your life.

A true soulmate is, surely, the most important person you will meet in your life, because they tear down all your walls and wake you up with a slam of the door.”

-Eat, Pray, Love (Elizabeth Gilbert)-

A soulmate is that person who makes you laugh and smile without saying anything at all. He is a person who is there, who does not abandon you, who is proud of what you achieve and who you are at the same time that he is not shy about telling you what he thinks or calling you out if you make a mistake.

It doesn’t mean that there won’t be misunderstandings or arguments, but even a complicit fight can break down our retaining walls. This only happens when that person is someone who questions you and who is not silently in your life, someone who marks a before for which there is no after and who floods every moment with tenderness.

Complicity allows us to accept without demands or hyper-attachments, without the need to change our essence or indulge infantile or extreme needs. Vibrations are then built that complement each other perfectly, in the same way that a shared secret winks at the unconditionality of the soul.

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Add instead of subtract

As His Holiness the Dalai Lama postulates, “If you don’t add, at least don’t subtract”. And complicity is about adding. If being with someone means subtraction, then you better think twice. Complicity allows you to be yourself and bring out the best in you. If someone tries to clip your wings, know that there is no complicity.

A clear example of complicity, although in another aspect, is found in John Lennon and Paul McCartney. Separately they are great musicians, but together they formed one of the best groups in the history of modern music. The same happens with relationships in which there is complicity. Together they highlight each other’s qualities, enhance them, make them grow and elevate them to levels never imagined..