Balance, key to good mental health

We all face different stressors, and we react to themWhy do some people cope better with ups and downs and stress than others? One reason for this may have to do with balance. Well, balance is the closest thing to what we know as true happiness.

Emotional balance helps us balance different moods and overcome extreme moments in which it seems that everything is falling apart compared to those in which we feel great happiness and well-being.

Balance does not come “as standard”

But that balance that we need does not come “as standard”, neither on a physical level nor on an emotional level. In the same way that our body oscillates when we learn to walk, in the same way that it struggles to hold us up in difficult moments to overcome a physical obstacle, our mind also oscillates violently and has problems, sometimes too many, to keep emotions under control and not come over. below.

So, in the same way that we learn to walk, that we learn to cross a narrow bench, that we learn to ride a bicycle, we also have to learn to balance our mind.. Painful falls come in the package; The important thing is to learn from them, analyze why and take the necessary measures in the next attempt.

Loving and consistent parenting seems to be an essential element when it comes to achieving good emotional balance.

But, What if this is not so? Some children live with distant and cold parents, who believe that crying will make them weaker and who do not give importance to their feelings, and who treat them cruelly when they try to express their feelings or desires when they go beyond “the right thing.” .

It is almost impossible to develop a balanced personality like that. Even more so when that family lives in constant extremes, in which everything is wonderful or everything is horrible, with no middle ground. This imbalance can also apply to relationships: all or nothing.

In this sense, Some theorists, such as Frank Putnam, have suggested that borderline personality disorder and dissociative disorders may be related to growing up in such families.being the way in which babies’ emotions are treated a fundamental ingredient in the coherent development of a stable personality.

We need balance in all areas of life

We need many different hormones and neurotransmitters to be in a state of biological and chemical balance. Imbalances can cause many metabolic disorders, as well as biologically based mental disorders. Additionally, our immune system has to be balanced to combat external invaders.

We also need a balance between excitement and calm. When there is too much excitement we seek relaxation and when life is too calm we seek to give it a little excitement.

Solitude and company must also be balanced, so if we are alone for too long we will seek the company of others, and if we have too many interactions with other people we will later seek the tranquility of our homesor a getaway to have a quiet vacation.

We also have to balance work and play. This may be especially true for those who work helping others, who have to be personally involved, or who experience situations that involve human drama.

When we experience stressful situations we also need to seek balance. To do this, it is necessary to begin by recognizing where this imbalance occurs. that causes us so much stress to be able to counteract it by avoiding swinging movements to the other extreme.

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