Affective possession. When to know the limit? – GOOD SHAPE

Affective possession, from the point of view of anthropology, is one of the results of the macho structure in which society was configured, creating a relationship of possession within a monogamous relationship.

This relationship of ownership, which arises from the assumption that women are a property of men, was historically rooted, so that not only do men consider women “theirs”, but women also often see their partners as “their own”. yours” too. In homoaffective relationships, there are also signs that this structure has been maintained.

Some factors can aggravate or accentuate this feeling of ownership, or rather, the feeling of the possible loss of ownership.

People who have had personal or family experiences in their life history where there has been betrayal may believe in infidelity as a norm, or a great possibility, in any affective relationship.

There are situations in which the person has already experienced relationships where there have been betrayals, this already predisposes them to look for evidence of betrayal, or to have their jealousy amplified, for fear that it will happen again, either with the same partner who cheated or another one with whom they never there was no kind of factual evidence.

There are also some disorders (such as Pathological Love or Jealousy) that bring about an exacerbation of jealousy with frequent reactions of great aggressiveness, which can lead to violence. These tantrums arise as a result of thoughts or interpretations that the other is cheating, flirting, or emotionally connecting with the other.

These people continually look for evidence that confirms their greatest fears and suspicions of infidelity. In these cases, it is very important to point out that excessive jealousy is usually more related to the insecurity of the jealous person than to the level of love or affection he has towards the other.

For those who identify with any of these characteristics, or relate to someone who believes they may have pathological jealousy or love, it is important to understand that this is a disorder, it can be treated, and it is not simply a person’s personality trait.

If jealousy or love is interfering with the quality of your relationship, this is a red flag to seek help.