Advantages of love without romance

You love spending time with your partner, the sex is wonderful, you have a lot of fun, you feel well cared for and loved… but You are not in love romantically. whatIs the relationship destined to end? Not at all. There are relationships that do not begin with a romantic romance, and yet they work like a charm.

It happens that when the two members of the couple realize that what is between them is care, love and tenderness (but not romanticism), they doubt. They don’t really know what’s going on if they should leave the relationship or dedicate themselves to enjoying themselves without thinking too much about it.

What they don’t know is that, in reality, there are sexual and affective relationships in which neither feels romantic love – but both enjoy the relationship. that last longer than traditional romantic relationships. And it happens because non-romantic love has some advantages that can play very much in favor of a couple.

benefits of non-romantic love

We are not used to just loving each other: we have been taught to love in a romantic, passionate and suffering way. We believe that without suffering there is no love and, however, it happens rather the other way around. See how many advantages romantic-free relationships have:

The present is enjoyed more. When you don’t swear eternal love, it’s easier to enjoy the present. In romantic-free relationships, both people are together because they want to and because they feel like it. Since they are not dedicated to thinking about the future, they live more intensely in the here and now because they do not know how long their relationship will last.Less drama and suffering. Non-romantic relationships are those in which the priority is enjoyment: there is no room for drama or suffering. Sometimes we say that they are lovers’ relationships, but in reality they are more like friendship relationships mixed with sexual attraction and strong chemistry between two people.Less sense of possession. People who don’t love romantically are freer to love and less jealous because they don’t feel that possessiveness and exclusivity that people feel when they fall in love romantically.

more serene love In non-romantic relationships we go more slowly, we get to know each other more calmly and we have a calmer pace because we don’t need to seal an emotional commitment as we do when we fall in love.fewer disappointments. People who get together to enjoy sex and love, but without romanticism, idealize less, are more pragmatic, are more realistic and do not project themselves into the future because they still do not know if the relationship is going to work, if they are going to be compatible or if the relationship can go beyond meetings for pleasure.More honesty. Without romance it is easier to communicate honestly, express how we feel and negotiate assertively, because we are not so afraid of losing our partner.Fairer agreements are established. Instead of following the path of traditional affective commitment step by step, the terms of a relationship are agreed on based on what the members of the couple feel like. The relationship is not predetermined, it is built naturally, each one talking about what they want, what they want or what they need from the relationship.

There are relationships that do not have romanticism, but do have a lot of affective responsibility and a lot of care.

Less control. There are couples who don’t write fiery poems, who don’t need to live together, who don’t become obsessed with the person they love, who don’t try to control their partners, who don’t experience tragedies, and who nevertheless enjoy their relationship a lot because they are thinking more about have fun than in possessing the other person.More equality. Relationships without romanticism are more egalitarian because love does not make us submissive or complacent. We can be ourselves all the time and we can enjoy both our autonomy and our love sessions with our partner.Less risk of suffering. Love breaks without romanticism are easier because there are no dramas: the two people can put an end to a beautiful experience in their lives without hurting themselves, at the right time, without staying to suffer or have a bad time.

For a relationship to work, more than romance and beautiful words, what is needed is a lot of good love. The best relationships are those in which there are no idealizations, disappointments, or suffering. They are those in which the two people know how to enjoy and take care of each other.