A mother of 3 wrote a letter to her future daughters-in-law, and many people couldn’t hold back their tears

Life shows us that relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law take place in all nuances or aspects, from love and friendship to rivalry and fights. That’s why when Rachael Boley, a mother of three young children, posted a touching letter to her future daughters-in-law on her blog, she received a heartfelt response from many people. After reading it, some of them confessed that they cried because they always wanted to have such a caring and understanding mother-in-law, while others said that they were happy to read the text as if they were their daughters-in-law.

With Rachael’s permission, the awesome.club wants to share her heartbreaking letter, and we hope you too can find something to relate to these sentimental words.

“Someone recently asked me what kind of men I hope my kids will be when they grow up, I think about that every day.

Although I look at them and see my babies, I’m not raising babies. I’m raising men. Men who will one day become fathers and husbands, some of the most important roles there are. My job as a parent is to enable them to acquire the skills they need to go out into the world and fulfill those roles well. Every day I am privileged to have these children, which is why I am committed to this responsibility.

Therefore…

For my future daughters-in-law, I have a few things I want to tell you. Which may not be all-encompassing, but luckily we have some time.

I don’t know you yet, but I already love you. I love you so much because one day each of you will love one of my children, and he will love you back.

The day will come when this inexperienced, dirty, untidy child will be yours. She will always be mine, but you will take my place in many ways.”

“Someday, your hand will replace mine, your eyes will be your peace and your heart will be your home.

You will be the one he kisses at night.

It will be with you that he will share his dreams.

You will be the one to comfort him when he is afraid.

It will be you who will win your heart, the same one that beats against my chest as I hold it every night.

Someday, baby, that will be you.

I always thought I would have a daughter. Now I know that daughter is you. I want you to know that I pray for you every day, just like I pray for my children.

Right now you are everything to your own parents, just as my children are everything to me. I ask God that you are loved, admired and valued, and that you have their affection and acceptance. I ask that you be taught to love yourself, for without that love, you will not be solidly prepared to love others successfully. I ask God to show you every day what a wonderful gift you are. I ask that if this message is somehow forgotten by those around you, that you always know that when God looks at you, He sees His princess.

I’m raising my kids to see her the same way.”

“I beg God that you value and respect yourself, and that you be taught to respect others in the same way. I pray that you are not afraid to share your voice, but that you use it to talk about the things in life, not only with yourself and those around you, but also with my son, as men need to be informed about these things. .

I want you to know that despite making many mistakes, I am committed to raising my son to honor you. I cannot take all the credit or blame for your successes or your mistakes and shortcomings. My mother taught me that.

He owns himself. It has its quirks and idiosyncrasies. You will discover this as you spend time with him and get to know him better. Give him space so he can be himself, I will teach him to do the same for you.

He will not complete you and you will not complete him. Only God can do that. But I ask that you build each other up and encourage each other to be better together than alone.

I promise to be considerate of you, to share with you my secrets and my knowledge about him, so that you can love him better. When the time comes, I will trust you with your heart, just as you will trust him with yours. I don’t consider this exchange an easy thing and I ask that you don’t either. I am raising him so that he understands the value of a woman’s feelings, which are priceless, and once the heart is broken, it can never be the same.”

“This isn’t always a bad thing, but we can avoid it, and I don’t want my son to be responsible for breaking your heart, and I also want you to remember that he can’t be the one to heal it. Again, only God can do this. I will raise my son so that he will always be grateful for the gift of you and your love, I will teach him to understand your value to honor and respect you, as you will him.

I strive to raise my children so that they learn to be strong and vulnerable. Courageous but humble, courageous and intrepid, who are not afraid to ask for help. May they be leaders, but know how to follow. I pray that he will be a good guide to you and know the honor of being in this role. I pray to God that he will be good to you, but never take advantage of his sacrifice.

I pray that you fully understand your role as a man and live your life with integrity, honor, humility, honesty, faith and humor. Let him know who he is, first in Christ and then in himself. I pray that you follow your dreams and passions, and that nothing stands in the way of including you. I pray the same happens to you.

I have committed to raising my children to be independent and never look for a mother in their loved one, because I assume that role. I promise to be fully present in each of their lives, to teach them what they need to know about women and how special they are. I promise to raise them in such a way that they will always remember that you are someone’s daughter.”

“I pray every day that you love my son, that your love expands and overflows. I ask the same for him. I hope that while you two are building a life together, you will never forget how it was built. Stay strong and united. They will need each other. Even if I teach him more to want you than to need you, there will be times when he will need you, and so will you. Be your pillar.

support each other. love yourselves. Choose yourselves.

The noise of the world will be loud and it won’t always be easy. There may be days when you look back and question every decision you’ve made. In those moments, think about all the projects you built together and remember why you chose to stay there.

I promise I will teach my son these same things. I will plant seeds of love in your heart every moment and promise to show you how to take care of yourself. Like washing clothes and dishes, as well as never expecting you to do everything. Like a true partner. I promise to encourage sensitivity by praising his strength, teaching him to be open-minded, and listening to his words when they come from your heart. That way he can understand it. To hug you. love you. You whole. May he see you for what you are, not what you can offer.

I promise to raise you so that you are happy and satisfied with yourself, so that he is enough for you.

Many years will pass before we meet, but every day from now on I will pray for you. I will love you, and when I find you, I will love you even more than I already do, because you will love my son. And you will become my daughter.”

How do you feel after reading Rachael’s letter? What do you think of this text, whether you are mother-in-law or daughter-in-law? Tell us in the comments section.