A man who comes and goes: do you know why he acts like this?

There is a type of man who always seems to come and go. Are men who appear and disappear, mysterious men who settle in your life, but only at times. If you are starting a relationship with one of them (or you have been in a relationship with him for a while and you don’t quite understand his behavior), you should know that this intermittence could probably be due to the fact that he has more than one partner.

In this article I tell you how to identify a person of this type. I also suggest that, when suspected, trust your intuition. If you have already reached this text, it means that something makes you suspect that your man’s behavior is not normal.

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typical behaviors

What kind of back and forth behaviors am I referring to? How to recognize them? Take note:

Irregular presence. He spends 3 days in a row with you and then disappears for a week.disparate communication He spends a long time texting you and then goes silent and is unreachable.Contradictory behavior. Sometimes he is convinced that he loves you and makes a beautiful speech about how great and sublime his love for you is. Other times he forgets to say goodnight to you.constant doubts One day he asks you to get away and explains that he needs to find himself, that he doesn’t know what he wants, that he has to think alone. Another day he returns to make you spend a night full of orgasms and passion and convince you that they really can’t live without you (or with you).Unequal treatment. One day he surprises you and treats you like a queen. The next day she disappears.changing mood. Suddenly he becomes “tormented” and causes you a huge row or a terrible drama to take advantage of the days of disconnection due to “anger” to live his life without giving explanations.

In essence, those men who are and are not, usually actually they are to many different things. They have several relationships and little time to attend to all of them. They all claim and he goes to look for them all and abandons them. This is how men come and go: this is how they have all the women they love on their knees.

Why do “come and go” men act like this?

Men who act like this usually do to be able to be with several women at the same time, yes. but the background It’s a matter of self-esteem These types of men love to make many women fall in love and they always need to have a few available because that makes their ego fatter.

For them, simultaneous relationships is hard work because they need to always have their imagination fired, create scenarios to get closer or further away, lie non-stop and make sure everything fits so they don’t get caught. They are usually men with a somewhat stormy romantic history, since women who put up with these behaviors tend to get fed up, discover them and, finally, leave them. Of course, many do it with a broken heart and shattered self-esteem.

That is why it is so important that we recognize the behavior of these types of men as soon as possible, so that we can end the relationship before the relationship ends with us.

If by reading these lines you have recognized your boy in any of these behaviors, it is worth asking yourself what may be behind them. If you suspect that he may be playing with you, do not close your eyes to it. Act as soon as possible. Even if it seems painful now to face a breakup, it will be more so the more time you let pass.

In my work with the women of the Laboratorio del Amor, We often ask ourselves the question of whether we are really capable of realizing if a relationship works or not. We wonder if we can identify the signs that tell us if they are loving us well, or not.

If we can stop to think about whether or not we are happy in a relationship, because we never lose our ability to evaluate and make decisions that help us to be happier.

Why trust our intuition about love?

We can trust ourselves because we are grown women. We have already lived many experiences, we have already accumulated various lessons and, although we are not clear about what we want, we have come to be clear about what we do not want.

Some of the things we can do to trust ourselves are:

Trust our intuition letting ourselves be carried away by that sixth sense that tells us if we are in the right place, if we are feeling good or not.Listen to our body pay attention to our emotions and feelings, listen to our inner voice with lots of love.ask us questions to be able to analyze our own responses, and to avoid self-deception.Assess from time to time if our need to be loved is leading us to settle or resign ourselves to the relationship we are building.Lay down our own red lines, non-negotiable, so as not to give in constantly and be clear about what we need to be well.look at us from outside to see ourselves with the same love with which we look at the women we love the most.Ask our dear people how our partner looks from the outside, if our behavior has changed a lot, if they see us happy and if they feel that our partner loves us, if they think they are treating us well or if we are treating the other person well.

Self-confidence implies being able to see ourselves as women who take care of themselves, women who do not settle for any type of relationship, women who seek well-being and happiness and who know how to make decisions for themselves, as in other areas of our lives.

Trusting yourself is an art. in which we can train daily, in all our relationships, including the relationship with oneself. For this it is important that we connect with our ability to love ourselves and to take care of ourselves, at all times, with the same love and dedication with which we love others.