7 Trends in Modern Relationships That Make Anyone Serious

Modern technologies facilitate many aspects of our lives today: information, shopping and, above all, the possibility of starting new relationships. Nowadays, communication on dating sites and social networks has changed a lot, and the fine line between the virtual and the real ends up creating a series of problems for the people involved.

We decided to research a little more about modern relationships and found out what we need to do to avoid falling into the many traps technology can put us in.

O ghosting 🇧🇷ghost is ghost in English) is when after one or 2 meetings the person simply disappears without explanation. Psychologists are very concerned about this phenomenon. It’s one thing when people tell you they don’t want it anymore, it’s another when they it just disappears, stops responding and doesn’t answer the phone.

In this case, the lack of resolution causes a constant need for self-analysis in the other person, which can last for a long time.

What to do?

Experts recommend acting firmly and without sentimentality. Do not make assumptions about the causes that led to this. Do not blame yourself. Don’t expect the ghoster come back, otherwise you will waste time and may delay recovery from a situation that cannot even be called a relationship.

O mosting is the even crueler variation of ghosting🇧🇷 In this case, most of the victims are women, since they are the ones who, as they say, love with their ears. The subject does not suddenly disappear, but convince the woman of that she is uniqueperfect, ideal.

Some men do mosting because they believe that with this type of behavior the woman will not feel used. In other words, they just disguise disinterest.

What to do?

Do not believe in declarations of eternal love after the first date. Draw conclusions about a person based on actions, not words.

Sometimes, the ghosters and the mosters Return. They can like photos of you, share posts, and even leave short comments on posts, even after they disappear without explanation. Still, the person keeps ignoring the private messages you send.

This phenomenon is called orbiting🇧🇷 the person stays at a distance (an orbit) that allows observing the other, but the other does not come into contact, which creates even more confusion. According to experts, in most cases these people simply keep others as potential options.

What to do?

Block people on all social networks, on cell phones, on everything.

O gatsbying it was named after the character in the book by F. S. Fitzgerald. In the story, Jay Gatsby organizes lavish parties with the hope that one day his beloved woman will come. Some people do the same thing on social media: they post a lot of pictures and stories and change their status to get someone’s attention. Posts can be provocative, frank or simply bring up some subject that catches the other person’s attention.

O gatsbying it’s quite a different way of expressing interest in communicating with someone. As the other person may not always know that what is being said directly to him, the answer may never come.

What to do?

Live your life without putting it on hold. If you are interested in someone, make it direct.

O serendipidating it can be explained through the saying ‘a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush’. People who do this prefer the 2 birds in the air and always feel that there will be better options available.

Therefore, they often postpone dates and they prefer to limit themselves to communication that is not very dynamic and exclusively virtual. These are exchanges of messages that almost never lead to anything.

What to do?

Don’t wait and don’t postpone a date forever.

O breadcrumbing (from English: breaded with breadcrumbs) is the following: after a conversation or a date, the person does not say no, but appears in the other’s life from time to time to remind them that they exist, with a message that it exists only to arouse an interest and an illusion, almost always accompanied by compliments, flirtations and empty insinuations.

In reality, the person is simply letting them some open options🇧🇷

What to do?

Understand that empty talk is just that: empty talk. Don’t try to find things where there aren’t any. While nothing is confirmed, don’t feed false expectations.

The name of this trend comes from an English word that means ‘to hide’. O stashing implies a relationship in which one of the two, for different reasons, hides the other from friends and family. This situation can happen even when two people have been together for a long time.

O stashing it is very common in relationships that start online, because in these cases it is more difficult for one person to become part of the other’s life.

What to do?

Ask why the other person is behaving that way. That is, ask what he thinks about the relationship.

You don’t have to memorize these names to understand modern relationships. However, it is good to understand its principles to prevent these errors from appearing.

Psychologists believe that when we ‘disappear’ in the ways described above, we also harm ourselves. We look at others as if they were just profiles on a social network and not real people, and that’s why we end up having a lot of difficulty developing a true relationship based on real feelings.

Have you ever had to face these types of situations? Do you know someone who has suffered from them? Share your opinion in the comments.