7 Phrases Not to Tell a Friend You Need Help

When someone opens up to us, we often don’t know how to react. It may happen that the person who came to seek support is left with nothing. And that doesn’t mean you intentionally ignored your friend. But how to avoid feeling this way?

O awesome.club figured out what words will help your friend overcome difficulties and you won’t end up looking like an indifferent, soulless robot.

If someone worries, they must have a reason for it, and they won’t stop worrying just because you say so. He needs your support, the opportunity to speak. Then the “Don’t worry!” sounds like “I don’t care”.

Perhaps. But when and how? If everything around you falls apart, stories about positive thinking will seem like a joke. A person has a problem, he doesn’t know how to solve it. Psychologists are right that an unsubstantiated statement is not the best way to help.

Worse than that can only be “be patient”. In response to his outburst, the sad person, instead of a light of hope, receives the advice to be strong because more problems will come. Who would like that?

Thus, he is trying to devalue the difficult situation that a person is going through. But it’s unlikely to cause the same emotions in her. Those who experience difficulties here and now do not worry about hunger in another continent. Leave that for a better time.

Rest, sleep, listen to music, go out for coffee, etc… A list of common advice. With simple manipulations, everything will be solved. Unfortunately, that’s not what happens.

No amount of order will stop the body’s natural reaction to stress. This was proven a long time ago: tears are a way to eliminate accumulated negative emotions. Why deprive the person of that opportunity? At such times it is better not to say anything.

Such phrases can only cause anger. Thus, you demonstrate that the one who shared your weakness did not respond to your expectations.

The right reaction and the right words can work miracles. A person who has difficulties you will feel your support and your solidarity if you can🇧🇷

demonstrate that you understand her and that you paid attention to what she said (“I understand you”) tell about a similar situation you went through and how you resolved it (avoid bragging, be sensitive) make it clear that she is not alone and that you are ready to share the problem (“Let’s work this out together”) say it will get easier over time and that all problems are somehow in the past offer your help, ask what you can do in this situation encourage and remind you that you’ve overcome a lot of problems (“You’ve been through worse, remember when…”) giving a compliment and focusing on the interlocutor’s strengths neutralize your feeling of guilt, otherwise you won’t see the situation well (“It’s not your fault, better think about how to solve this